How to see reality as it really is

We have started to understand that we need to re-look at everything entirely in life. At some point in our lives there will come a time when we need to be born again to life. We must actually learn how to see reality as it really is. Our first birth is only where it started. It is incredible how everything in the world and the universe has two parts to it. Including ourselves. Our task in this life is to emerge from the physical into the spiritual. From form to no form. From the egoic to the divine that is within us all, but is only deeply known later in life. So mind set matters.

How to see reality as it really is

We are born operating almost entirely from the physical. We then become more psychological and emotional when the body allows. Then, when the mind and emotions allow, we will become more spiritual. No one knows exactly what our spiritual selves entail. We don’t know where they come from or where they go, but we know they are there. Eventually, that is, because it takes time to get still enough and equipped enough to comprehend its presence. One thing we do know in the first half of life is that we are not capable of bearing the burden of being an emotional being. We learn that capability. We master self regulation only when we are ready. Perhaps you know adult children today? They are a good example of emergence and non-emergence of a higher self. These people have not yet let go of childhood. They are getting their pleasure from acting and behaving like children because that’s how they got what they wanted as a child. Growing up is as much neurological as it is physical, spiritual and emotional. Contemplation is seeing this reality exactly the way it is. That is why we teach people how to practice contemplation

We are born operating almost entirely from the physical. We then become more psychological and emotional when the body allows. Then, when the mind and emotions allow, we will become more spiritual.

We don’t see things as they are but rather we see them as we want to see them. When we change the way we look at things the things we look at change. So contemplation is really about being able to see things exactly the way they are. In their true nature. Without our personality. Without our ego defence mechanisms. Without clouded judgement. We can see and then appreciate life exactly the way it is. What many people fail to realise as mature adults is that the world is a good place. They watch the news. They hear negative stories day after day. They start to believe that it’s a bad morning. Even when people tell them it is a good morning all morning long! They do not hear it. They I have already been believing that it is a bad morning. This becomes their reality. 

How to see reality as it really is for you

At the Centre for Healing and Life Transformation in South Africa, we get many many people who come in and do not even realise the state of themselves or others all the world. They see it all as bad. And what you see through the stained-glass window of the soul, which is your eyes, is what you will experience inside. As you see so shall you be. So what we see with our eyes is all based on perception. You must understand this. You must constantly Strat to re-question what do you believe. This is a daily practice and it is called self-regulation. Self-regulation is the future of medicine and mindfulness. It is something that should be practised at school level first. It should be taught to our children who are more confused as young adults then any young adults have ever been before in the history of time. They are depressed. They believe what they hear their parents saying. They believe what they hear their teachers saying. By the time we are adults we have very little chance at being positive. We are always looking for danger. This is why most people are running on survival mind. They are running around the world like monkeys and calling at success. People glorify busy and a glorify working for 17 hours a day on things that do not really matter. Yes, we are going backwards in many ways. But we do not realise it. We think we are going forwards at 1,000,000 miles an hour. But people are sick angry lonely and depressed. They are confused as they are not becoming happy after being busy. Not happy at all. 

They’re becoming depressed. They’re becoming disillusioned at what they see in the world, and what they see what they feel in their hearts. And, over time they cannot tell the difference between a truth or a lie. This is where contemplation comes in. It helps people see it exactly the way it is. It is about seeing and then believing what is. If I tell you that life is good you may start to argue and formulate a list of how many things are negative and wrong in the world. But I can tell you now with a little bit of contemplation and a little bit of time, that you will see one day that the world is a good place. You will see that the book of Genesis was right. In the book of Genesis you will see what God said to you in the very beginning of time. He says it was good five times in a very few sentences in the beginning of the Bible. People say they don’t believe what the Bible says anymore like they don’t believe the world is good anymore. But all they need to do is read the first few lines of the Torah to understand what life is really about it says it plainly, and as clearly as day light. 

How to see reality as it really is

God said that the light was good! Can you see that? In the beginning God named the water ocean God saw that it was good. So you feel this? God made fruit bearing trees of all sorts. God saw that it was good. Do you see this when you see fruit bearing trees? God made light and dark and saw that it was good. God made every kind and species of flying bird and saw that it was good. God made cattle of every kind and every sort of reptiles and bug you can imagine and saw that it was good. Do you see this? It is important for you to know what you see or don’t see. Especially if life is not working out for you as you want it to. On the last of these first days, God looked over everything he made it was so good so very good and that was written down as day six. Now it is day 14 billion years or 14 billion giga-annum’s later as they say in science and you have forgotten the very nature of life. 

To go back to the beginning is a wise decision for you to make if you are now not coping. If life is not working for you go back to the beginning and take another look. You don’t need to change anything. You don’t even need to change yourself. All you need to do is see the world in a grain of sand and heaven in a wildflower. All you need to do is see how good how very good life. Learn out of contemplation understand , How to see reality as it really is, and you will change the way you look at things and then you are guaranteed that the things you look at will change. Many best blessings. Namaste. 

How to see reality as it really is

CAN YOU SEE IT? – How to see reality as it really is

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We have started to understand that we need to re-look at everything entirely in life. At some point in our lives there will come a time when we need to be born again to life. Our first birth is only where it stated. It is incredible how everything in the world and the universe has two parts to it. Including ourselves. Our task in this life is to emerge from the physical into the spiritual. From form to no form.

We are born operating almost entirely from the physical. We then become more psychological and emotional when the body allows. Then, when the mind and emotions allow, we will become more spiritual. No one knows exactly what our spiritual selves entail. We don’t know where they come from or where they go, but we know they are there. Eventually, that is, because it takes time to get still enough and equipped enough to comprehend its presence. One thing we do know in the first half of life is that we are not capable of bearing the burden of being an emotional being. We learn that capability. We master self regulation only when we are ready. Perhaps you know adult children today? They are a good example of emergence and non-emergence of a higher self. These people have not yet let go of childhood. They are getting their pleasure from acting and behaving like children because that’s how they got what they wanted as a child. Growing up is as much neurological as it is physical, spiritual and emotional. Contemplation is seeing this reality exactly the way it is. That is why we teach people how to practice contemplation. #contemplation #spiritualawakening #spirituality

Twins in the womb discuss life after birth

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A spiritual and heart-warming story of Twins in the womb discuss life after birth. One represents the lower or egoic self. The other the higher or spiritual self. The distance between faith and faithlessness, hope and hopelessness is the space in which we find ourselves living today. 

Contemplation traverses time

Did you know that Contemplation is a miracle that takes us beyond time? Contemplation traverses time. We could never, ever, ever, ever, ever learn or understand what life is about and who we are unless we were able to transcend time. No philosopher, scientistic, priest or intellectual has ever done so. Although we will never have all the answers, and know that life is something that is revealed to us on a daily basis, we still know that there is a process happening. 

Most people are blind to the process in the first half of life. This is why suffering comes. To teach us to stop and rethink it all. Start to finish. We are all here being loved by a continual daily outpouring of love from the food we take, the sun, the earth and of course other awakened, or awakening people. 

Our first job is one of awareness. To even know that there is an outpouring is an awakening in its own right. It takes cognitive intelligence to grasp it. Do you know that many people believe there is no out pouring and no process at all? Do you know that they believe this is all a cosmic fluke, a mistake, repeated nowhere else in the universe? How grand our ego can be. I encourage you today to simply think about that level of consciousness as it is in you today. I do not ask you to believe this or that. Just contemplate reality as you see, hear, taste, touch and smell it. Consciously. This material connection is enough to get any one of us to open our eyes and see what is. To see what is would take a life time, or a million lifetimes. But you can transcend time, and space as you go within and contemplate with all your senses. Senses that will open your soul to the truth of this loving process. Blessings and namaste as you navigate and contemplate your way today. 

Contemplation traverses time as a free gift to us all that will help us complete the task of life. Our purpose of life is all the same. Each person has the same purpose. It is only when we believe we have separate purposes that war comes, and hate and separation come. Contemplation is given with grace to help you and I complete the task successfully. Although we are not controlled we are guided. This is love. When you can see through contemplative awareness that you are guided you in turn will guide others. This is the Sacred process, or sacred quest back to your authentic self.

Over the last twenty years we have helped people at Center for Healing and Life Transformation with problems of thinking and being that have presented as depression, stress, burn-out and addictions. Our psychologists, psychiatrists or wellness and mindfulness teachers don’t get them well. There is no such wellness process in the world. The only process is the unveiling of consciousness. Nothing else happens to make people well. They learn how to think more correctly and in so doing leave the thinking errors behind. That is all that any psychologist or healer does. They simply remove our errors in thinking. So we become more intelligent in this way of course.

Earlier this week in a lecture that was being presented we discussed the idea that ‘you can’t get there from here. You cannot get to lasting peace, calm, purpose and bliss unless you go beyond two things; ego and the mind. You cannot understand life or yourself because you are not capable of a full understanding of life or yourself! The intellect hates this unknown mystery and demands answers, answers that it will not get. So it ends up having a tantrum because it learned in childhood when all else fails in getting what you want, simply have a tantrum. We discovered in healing people these tantrums were the depression and anxiety and the latent rage. All we had to do was go beyond intellect and into the heart and soul and we discovered that is how one gets there. You get there from using all you faculties and talents. Not just the mind. The mind is not enough. It must be transcend to understand. We can translate this metaphorically to having to go beyond our very own human natures, personalities and frames of reference. This is how we ‘get there’. We unite it all. This is the meaning of yoga and even of the biggest religion in the world. Catholic also means unity of all.

Contemplation traverses time because thinking is an error in the end. The eastern wisdom traditions have taught us this for centuries. For most of the world today thinking is not working too well. Addiction rates are soaring. Pharmaceutical usage is also astronomical. Yet, we are the most educated, comfortable and technologically advanced generation ever. We are acting like life is a race, and it is all about trying to manipulate time to win the race. Unfortunately this is all a means to an end that is slowly being shown to us at the present moment. We are starting to see that pharmaceuticals and races both are useless pursuits for most of us. The reality is that we are going nowhere. We are only doing what those psychologists and psychiatrists do with the sick. They help them to become more conscious. When consciousness dawns, it is called an awakening. An awakening from a nightmare of a race we are losing. No, there is no race as we see that contemplation traverses time. Today, you can develop your own contemplative practices and contemplative intelligence to be still, not race, and in so doing experience how your very own contemplation traverses time.

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21 Rules for Life

Rules for Life are intentional, on-purpose, patterns of spiritual intentions that provide structure and direction for growth and contribution in our lives. These 21 Rules for Life are an exterior framework for an interior journey. Creating rules for yourself establishes a rhythm for life which is helpful for manifesting real personal growth that, with enough practice, starts to form part of your Higher or Spiritual Self. Rules create a rhythm that reflects our emerging love for God, self and others which is the very reason why we are spinning around on this big blue marble in the first place. 

Rules simply provide structure to remind us of what is really important in our lives. All great spirituality is about what we do with our pain. 

Our rules for life should be the minimum standards for your best life that you want to live and create. Rules and practices will differ greatly from person to person but the need for direction and meaning is the same for everyone. Here are 21 rules for life to help you create a life of wellness every single day. A life driven with purpose and meaning and built from the ground up.

21 RULES FOR LIFE SUMMARY

1. Always tell the truth.

2. Develop self-discipline. 

3. Create a plan.

4. Progress not Perfection.

5. Stay out of drama.

6. Become fearlessly authentic.

7. Let go of resentments.

8. Love. 

9. Fail Gracefully.

10. Practice the law of detachment.

11. Accept Uncertainty.

12. Insist on minimalism.

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13. Lead a purpose driven life.

14. Know your true intentions.

15. Put God first. 

16. Take Risks.

17. Look after your health.

18. Create yourself.

19. Eliminate Worry.

20. Transcend yourself.

21. Always remember that life is not about you.

1. Always tell the truth. The truth will set you free. Lies will only confuse you and others. When you tell the truth you have nothing to hide and by default and people will notice that. People are perceptive and build relationships on trust and open communication. It is true that the truth will indeed set you free.

2. Develop self-discipline. self discipline enables you to choose what you want for your life and then follow through unwaveringly with those decisions. It also gives you the power and inner strength to overcome your limitations and vices and withstand cravings and temptations for things that don’t work for you like addictions or procrastination. Developing discipline will help you to master you thoughts and emotions and get what you really, really want out of life. 

3. Create a plan. Bad plans are better than no plans. We all need somewhere to aim. Aimlessness gets us poor results and we seldom hit the targets we are aiming for. Zombies walk around aimlessly in on mans land. No mans land is a military term for an undefined place or state, a war-zone, that is much like a wasteland where little productive ever comes to bear for either side. Get out of the wastelands!  Write your plans down with a title of what your life looks like, what you need to do to get there and what you shouldn’t do that will hinder you getting there. 

4. Progress not Perfection. A key to happiness is not “perfection”, but it is “progress.” Perfection simply focuses on what is not working one hundred percent, while progress is always happening and evolving. Think about it, perfection is about the fantasy of a finished state. Death is the only real finished state that you don’t need to aim for. Focus on progress by making small steps count everyday and enjoy the journey not the destination.  

5. Stay out of drama. Dont rescue others, nor persecute them with gossip and bad-mouthing and don’t become a victim to your own thinking. Victims tend to blame others for our problems and get nowhere until they can become personally accountable for living their own lives. Drama is a bad habit that can be cleaned up with some spiritual hygiene. Let go easily. Be quick to forgive and keep your side of the street clean. What others choose to do or not do is none of our business. 

6. Become fearlessly authentic. To thine own self be true. Never loose your authenticity to people please. Prana or life energy flows at its peak when you are true to your own nature. Authenticity starts in your heart and requires vulnerability, integrity and courage to flourish. Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day for ourselves. Authenticity is also magnetic to others. 

7. Let go of resentments. Have the courage to let go of resenting others. It will only make you angry and bitter. Resentment takes down more good people than almost anything else in this world. Be quick to forgive. Surrender to what is. Learn to let go. 

8. Love. Daring to love in an imperfect world takes courage. Be curious and take an interest in other people, animals and nature. Love the world with deepening affection as much as you love the skin you’re in as you practice your 21 Rules for Life everyday. 

9. Fail Gracefully. Dont be afraid to fail. Failure is inevitable and it happens to us on a daily basis. Failures make us kinder, more empathic and more real. We can connect more deeply with other people when we are vulnerable enough to share our failures as much as out strengths. Accepting our failures is a humbling process and humility is our surest sign of strength. Life is the process of failing forwards. 

10. Practice the law of detachment. Commit yourself to detachment by not trying to rigidly impose your idea of how things should be on others or on yourself. Detach from the outcome.

11. Accept Uncertainty. The egos need to for safety and certainty can lead to small thinking and small results or consequences. Think big, with curiosity and open-mindedness. This also opens you up to the realm of uncertainty where there are endless possibilities that wait you. 

12. Insist on minimalism. If you don’t use it, loose it! Minimalism is not just about consumerism and our ego’s need to gain more and more of what doesn’t make us happy. Spirituality and minimalism are also closely entwined and teach us that less is often more. This paradox is made clear when we see those people who have a wealth of peace, happiness and bliss in their lives oftentimes have less clutter and baggage to deal with in life than people chasing riches and material things. Simplicity breeds abundance mentality. It defines enough. It shows us who we are deep down within and it automatically removes the unnecessary in our lives. 

13. Lead a purpose driven life. It is easy to fall into mindlessness and meaninglessness if we’re not careful to keep an eye on what we’re really doing and where we are really going. If you loose meaning and purpose you’ll quickly become bitter and angry. Let purpose or your dharma be your compass and only do things that nourish your soul’s true purpose, which is to give, grow and contribute to a better life for yourself and others. So find your Ikigai or ‘reason to live’ as they say in Japanese and always take powerful action that is true to your purpose. 

14. Know your true intentions. Self-knowledge for the 21 Rules for Life is the beginning of all self-improvement. Know what it is you intend to do at any given moment by coming from a place of certainty, in knowing what you intend to do and create. Intentions are like pit-bull kinds of determination that help us create the lives we really want to live. Never let go of your inner intentions. Write them on a card and whenever you get confused or uncertain read the card and reconnect to the power of intention. 

15. Put God first. One thing that all spiritual practices shows us is that life is not really about just you. It is about connecting to far greater things and it tells us that all of us operate as one in this massive and mysterious universe. Put God first in your life and everything else will flow to you with grace and ease they way it is meant to, according to the law of attraction. It is not a human centric Universe and the sooner we can accept that the sooner we can start to let Love guide us in everything we do. When that happens, nothing good you desire will ever not come to you. 

16. Take Risks. Trust, risk and share who you really are with others and allow courage to be your guide. Lean into the discomfort of awkward feelings and emotions as you insist on risking your sense of certainty to embrace a flow of new things into your life. When nothing is sure, everything becomes possible. Thrive on a healthy sense of risking, daring and sharing who you are with the world. What you get in return is an endless flow of boundless possibility. 

17. Look after your health. You body needs a healthy mind, and and vice versa, to operate optimally. Wellness includes everything from drinking enough water, to good sleep and to ensuring you have the right nutrition and balanced intakes for your body. Emotional health is just as important as spiritual health, although seldom ever considered, it is super important. Take the time to meditate and contemplate. Avoid all excess. Go on silent retreats and do mindful walks alone. Health is not just an absence of dis-ease but an inner bliss that should be felt all the time. 

18. Create yourself. It is the most important thing you will ever do. In the first half of your life someone took care of you and fed and bathed you. You learned everything you know from other people. In the second half of life, each of us must re-discover who we really are underneath all we have learned. We must transcend our very own personalities, the self, so that we can live an authentic life. This is the spiritual journey of the 21 Rules for Life that we must all undertake as we re-create ourselves in a way that is real and genuine. 

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19. Eliminate Worry. Fear does nothing other than make us angry and afraid and with both of these come obstacles we will all need to overcome to lead a spiritually successful life of authenticity. Worry about the past creates depression, and fear of the future breeds anxiety. Live one day at a time. Every day has enough content and problems of its own. Live in the present moment and train yourself to eliminate the habit of worry. Only be concerned with what is within your control. Usually all this is is our very own responses and attitudes to the unfolding of life. 

20. Transcend yourself. Master yourself. Let go of the lower self by working on understanding your ego and how it operates from a lizard-brain mindset that oftentimes ends in us taking two steps forward and one step back more often than we would like to in life. Mastering yourself brings freedom, adventure and liberty and allows you to resist any negative external forces that may pass you by. When we stop with self deception we immediately start to transcend our lower or small selves. Sometimes even to live is an act of courage – Seneca.

21. Always remember that life is not about you. Your life is not about you, but rather you are about life. Our roles in life form part of a much bigger whole and when we can understand that a sense of true freedom and peace follows. The mystery of life is far to grand a design for us to ever fully understand. Just like the earth is rounded and curved, it too has no centre. It is part of a much grader design. Our job is simply to be a human BE-ing. We can learn to be still. Not idle, just still. We can just be, without any guilt or shame knowing that all we need to do is grow, connect, contribute and become more and more of who we really are and who life really is everyday. Knowing that this is our life purpose lowers the mountains and fills in the valleys that we have created though thinking we are the centre of the Universe. 

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