Your Essential Life Path

I am telling you now that healing is the essential path today. We all treat it like it is an option but it is not an option to overcome 20 years of depression and lose those decades in sickness and stuckness. Your Essential Life Path, and I don’t use those words lightly, is to grow and contribute to self and then others or the buck stops here. It is not an option any longer to not try and beat your addictions and alcoholism and suffering and anxious thinking. It is not an option to live half a life in the twenty first century and this is why we call this journey of healing the essential path as of this moment. It is a path of transformation. You need to go through it and walk along it. We need to take an essential journey and cross over from our past trauma into healing and transformation. because that is the way everything else in the universe works. It is not just the way you work but the way everyone works.

Today with all the information that we have available to us we have people just believing that they need to just cope with pain and problems. No, you don’t cope with stuckness of any kind, whether it be depression and trauma for example, when the world needs change as much as you do. Rather you must try and over come it. Transcend it. You learn and grow from it eventually anyway. The Sufis used to say that nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come. The time, when you live only 80 or 90 years, is always right now. We must be cognisant of that. Your Essential Life Path is waking up to that.


‘How do I do it’ people often say to me. ‘How do I heal my life?’ Here is the how and it is green lights all the way for you. All paths lead to God! Study the 4 agreements books, the 12 steps of emotions anonymous or the bible the Bhagavad-Gita. You can try mindfulness, yoga, contemplation or meditation and whatever else it is you can fathom. You can heal through almost any system based in loving kindness. 

Your Essential Life Path

Understand this. You don’t conform you transform. The Bible says do not conform to the pattern of this world. It says don’t copy the behaviour and customs of this world but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think and then you will learn to know Gods will for you. This will is good pleasing and purpose full which is the perfect direction for you to go in. Healing is essential to everything that lives and breathes including you. Stop and contemplate that once more if you need to. If we do not heal and carry on as we do the world will die in the next few hundred years. You are the one, along with the rest of us, that must heal yourself so that you can help heal the world in turn. Just like nature is doing it all around us all day long. You see, it is healed people that heal people! Many of us sit with depression, fear and tension like it’s a choice. The only decision to be made is the one to heal as best as you can, as soon as you can. This is our purpose. It is our career objective as much as it is our life’s objective and we are all called to journey along this essential path. 

Don’t copy the behaviour and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:2 New Living Translation

The renewal of your mind works from back to front and from downstairs to upstairs and from left to right. It is almost too simple to teach. It is exactly what the pills, chemicals and medicines are doing as they try and help by moving everything you think neurologically, from the back of your head to the front. It travels forward just like life travels. It travels to your pre-frontal cortex trying to get change to happen, but not only do we not change but we are also resistant to it. We don’t like change. Change and uncertainty are very scary notions, but at some point it is both necessary and worth it. It needs to be done and we need to grow. How do we know this because everything else is growing. The Earth, the universe, children, trees and everything else is growing. But are you growing? That is how you overcome suffering which is necessary to get you from A to B. 

Your Essential Life Path
Your divine purpose is to wake up and then change the world from the inside out

So what we need to do is understand that to make positive change happen for us and attract what we want, we must consider what we are believing and where our memories are taking us and how much of those memories, that are 10 and 20 years old, are somehow still guiding your life today. Either memories are guiding our lives if we are depressed, stuck and are feeling victimised by life. On the other hand we can get attacked by our wild imaginations and become too scared to leave home or even cross the street. We all don’t want to be hurt again. That however is absolutist and we need to just do life anyway. That is our true, spiritual nature. We cannot have happiness without some hurt getting us there as well. We cannot have good without bad because when we numb the bad feelings we numb the good ones too! We cannot move forward unless we realise that we are stuck in the first place. When you realise on our Your Essential Life Path that we are stuck in the story of our past and a made up future, we can stop being depressed and afraid. It is false evidence appearing real to the mind. That is all! 

We need to learn transformation not coping. The world is just like you, it is impermanent and will not stay the same, and neither will you. So don’t stay stuck! You can heal your life no matter what you have been told or what story you believe. It is a neurological dialogue and a construct created by your mind. Your growth and healing is an essential part of the future life of the world and we need to get our world right in the next 50 to 100 years or what do you think is going to happen? If we don’t start believing a new story what is going to happen? We often tend to forget that 200 people, at least, die from starvation every single day. We hide this and other bad things from ourselves and bury our heads in the sand trying not to change what needs to change. So when you heal and transform yourself you will transform the world. We need to re-think what is possible. This is Your Essential Life Path and everyone else’s.

“Until we learn to love others as ourselves, it’s difficult to blame broken people who desperately try to affirm themselves when no one else will.”
― Richard Rohr

As fragile as we are we are also incredibly courageous as a species. Look at how much we go through in our lives. But we always heal and overcome and transform. This is part of the deal. It is time to open up show up and grow up and change ourselves and then the world in that order. Because here it comes, “when you change the way you look at things the things you look at change,” including the reflection in the mirror. 

Let’s change your perceptions right now to be more accurate with the bigger picture of objective reality. Is the world a good or bad place? I know that you will be tempted to answer from your imagination or your memory. What did you read in the newspaper or see in the news today? Do you believe it? Are you likely to believe a lie while your soul sleeps in beams of light? We need to look at things past just the physiological and intellectual. We need to re-look at whether the world is in a good or bad place to become more grateful than judgmental. We need to use Contemplative Intelligence rather than denial and projection which are the very reasons for every wall that we put up, along with every conflict in the world. Our dichotomous thinking needs to go. To the mind, it is always someone else who is bad. You might be lying on the couch depressed, alone and afraid, thinking the world is a terrible place. But you need to rethink that you may just be wrong if you take a look outside. The world is like an amusement park and if we dive into the oceans it is like a giant, and blissful aquarium. The colour alone is enough evidence to show you that the world is a beautiful place. Look at what you see for yourself, without your story. This is where the act of contemplation and the practice of it starts to really come in and you can rethink, and take another look at what really, really is. Much like the story of Neo in the Matrix. So, if you think it’s bad have another look. God said he made the world and it was good. Has the world really changed. In the grand scheme it is definitely a no. It still operates like it did bazillions of years ago. 

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

Victor Frankl

Transcending Our suffering is necessary

If you are suffering today you may be suffering your beliefs or your imagination, so drop it. Drop the story because who are you really without your story? Can you drop your personality? Yes of course. I’ve seen it done 1 million times in our healing center with people from all over the world with all sorts of problems. A course in miracles is spot on when it states, “You have no problems, but you think you have.” Your persona is a mask and everything that is not real has to go! The truth, the real, will set you free. If we start making the world black with carbon it will soon make us suffer and stop working and it will have to go. Selfishness, gluttony, jealousy and coping all has to go, so that we can focus on helping those 200 people live, and then helping the planet breathe again, sans carbon. Who will help them otherwise? Amazon or Apple? No. It is easy to believe that hunger and starvation and poverty or other peoples business. Instead it is your duty and my duty to grow and contribute and that is a fact that is written everywhere, over all the ages, in all the philosophies of the world. 

Your Essential Life Path

What is the key to life? Growth and contribution is the answer. All we do is take, take, take but then ask yourself if the world is just ‘take, take…taking like you take. No. The world is giving every single day. All it is doing is pouring out love, food, shelter, warmth and everything else that is good in this world. It’s real because it’s never changed in 14.7 billion years. So all we need to do is copy what the world is doing and give like it gives. 

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A journey through Cancer

Mark shares his story as a cancer survivor 

Having gone through colon cancer in 2019 along with having two operations, radiation and chemotherapy, Mark shares his story of how he tried to cope through the experience and try and find some light at the end of a tunnel that no one really knew if, or when, it would have an end. 

There is always a corner to turn in life and we can never give up hope even if we have to navigate a journey through cancer . Life is difficult but it is also the most valuable and special gift we will ever have. Mark shares some details of his own story as a cancer survivor of colorectal cancer. Cancer can be beaten, overcome, healed and managed. Everyone going through cancer or remission has a value and a purpose. Together we can help each other overcome just about anything in life. Keeping your connection and even growing them through the dark times is everyones business.

Many people have gone through far, far greater trials with this disease and I am incredibly fortunate to have had a manageable journey through Cancer. The problem with this disease is that the symptoms are so different for everyone and the treatments are also radically diverse. The chemotherapy and radiation dosages are worked out individually by scientists who have to review each and every single case by a multitude of factors such as age, general health status, medical history and so on. To make matters even more complicated the treatments also work completely differently for different people. In this way it resembles covid19. You just have no clue of what you’re going to get on various levels. 

A journey through Cancer Suggestions

So my message a journey through cancer is clear from my own experience and it may differ greatly to others who may have gone through much tougher, longer and differently staged treatments. My suggestion is to try and go through whatever you are going through one day at a time. Fragment this problem to getting one thing done at a time. Do only what is in front of you for that day! Then rest your mind, body and soul as much as you can. Then keep it simple. The mind has a way of pushing to find certainty and safety by finding answers. Answers can be difficult to get and cannot compete with the endless questions people who face such uncertainty experience. Follow the doctors suggestions as closely as you can and get a second opinion whenever you feel you need one. A good oncologist today will most certainly help you get the information and perspectives you need to keep yourself as focused as possible. 


This is your choice. Doctors, Oncologists and others in the field with years of experience are the best ones to follow in my opinion. There is a lot of controversy surrounding natural routes or chemical recovery routes like chemo. Think and then re-think your choices and discuss them with as many people as possible. Many people have died unnecessarily and say to quickly from having a fear of chemotherapy and what they may have seen on television. 

The most important three suggestions I can give anyone going through a journey through cancer is firstly to understand that technology changes every month. There are tons of experimental and clinical options surfacing all the time. Side effects and other issues have been managed by some of the best brains in the world. It is far from a death sentence and cancer can be beaten, along with the drove of other crazy things that can happen to us. 

Secondly, overcome the anxiety and fear enough to at least try and focus on your recovery and follow the doctors suggestions whenever you have the strength to do so. It is my experience that they help you day and night to manage your issues when possible. People care and everyone is working to help us find treatments and cures for cancer. Know that there is a team of people behind you and many other people who are and will be going through what you do. Keep the faith! Thirdly, let it unfold as best as you are able to. This involves letting go, surrendering and allowing what needs to happen, happen. It was the “Best still and know that I am God” styled message that I received from a note pinned above the radiation machine. You are always doing the best you can. All of us are always doing the best we can. Even if we’re crumbling, that may be the best we are capable of at the time. Time passes, and this too shall pass!

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Is your brain asleep?

Creating a healthy new consciousness

There is a level of consciousness readily available to all of us to create the healing and life shifts that we need to transform our lives. We are looking to external things to solve internal problems. A mental health crisis is the result. Neurologically we have created activity in certain parts of our brains, such as the survival, learning and memory centres of our brains hardware. We can see the evidence of this clearly on neuro imaging. One could easily ask the question ‘is your brain asleep?’ when they see these images. If we learn how to consciously activate different parts of our brains and move from the back of our heads to the frontal regions or the downstairs of our brains to the more intelligent “upstairs” regions, we will start to see miracles occur. We see these miracles taking place at our Center for Healing and Life Transformation every day. What we have found through our own research is that we don’t need to treat stress and depression. That can be like kicking a dead horse neurologically speaking. No we activate an entirely different region of the brain and create what the sages have referred to as spiritual awakenings for centuries. A paradigm shift in consciousness is available to everyone, all the time. We no longer need to cope and treat our stress and depression for years on end. Rather we ill transform it. 

“Nothing Real Can Be Threatened; Nothing Unreal Exists. Herein lies the peace of God.” A Course in Miracles

Mark speaks of a quote from A Course In Miracles, A return to love, which states that “Nothing Real Can Be Threatened; Nothing Unreal Exists. Herein lies the peace of God.” This peace that they speak of is activated when we do return to love as the book suggests. We return to the real, not the false. It is the false self who is anxious, afraid, angry and depressed. It is not your true self. The true self is the part of you that can never ever be threatened or damaged or broken. Nothing can separate us from this self. Take courage in knowing that. Then , take action in rebuilding the parts of your life that no longer work for you. Herein, as they say, lies this peace of God which surpasses all understanding. Literally. The brain cannot understand it so it becomes blind and afraid. That is how depression happens. It is no accident. These beliefs the brain creates can be seen on a screen today. Once we become aware of the fact that we are “led to believe a lie” then we can awaken to the reality that all is well and that all manner of things shall be well!

We are led to Believe a Lie

When we see not Thro’ the Eye

Which was Born in a Night to perish in a Night 

When the Soul Slept in Beams of Light – William Blake 

Your brain will fall asleep when it is tired. It will not function and operate at a level that is required to maintain a high level of homeostasis. Balance in all things, especially thoughts, is a requirement for someone who wants to do good things with their life. If you balance your thoughts, your emotions will become balanced. Your breathing, blood flow and even the amount of oxygen to your brain will be affected positively. Stress is a killer. It kills balance. When we have no balance you can be guaranteed that your brain will eventually fall into a survival mind mentality. It will take over the task of managing itself for you, because even your brain will notice, probably before you do, that you are not looking after your mental state.

I will no longer treat your depression. It takes too long and wastes your life. Those days are gone. Now instead, I will help you to transform your life.

Mark L Lockwood

Our brains are not great managers. We can rely on them to manage us, but don’t expect outstanding results. The brain is part of your nervous system, geared for keeping you alive. Not ecstatic or peaceful. Just alive, which is a low quality of life. If you have been experiencing this low quality kind of life because of stress, disorders or even from traumas in your past, you may need a reset. Not suicide. Not giving up or hopelessness. Just a mental reset, which is entirely possible to manage in a short space of time. So if you answer yes to the question of is your brain asleep?, then you will have a heart and soul as well as a ton of your own energy and potential that is lying dormant. We are all worthy of awakening to the best of life. We all deserve the glory and wonder of feeling peace and energy flowing simultaneously through our veins. All things are possible. Including the journey towards your own enlightenment. Peace be with you today, forever and always. 

Is your brain asleep?
Is your brain asleep?

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Recovering from Fear Addiction

Fear is an addiction of the mind. Recovering from Fear Addiction can change the very way you live your life and experience the world. It is a mind that is locked in the learned memories of the past or one that escapes into the imagined images it sees in the future. On either spectrum the thoughts are not real. Fear in fact is false evidence appearing real. Today we need to learn how to consciously overcome fear, stress and anxiety in the external world that can be ramped up by a survival mind in our internal worlds.

Waking up from past experiences and letting go fo our need to control future experiences that are out of our hands is the first step to Self Mastery. If you are unable to master yourself, you will not be able to master the things outside of you. You will not be able to actualise all your potential because opportunities and potential are only active in a present moment mindset. What that means is that you must be mindful and aware of where you are. You must train the mind to see the difference between the real and the imaged. You have the same material within you that is also in the cosmos. Starts and you are made up of the same thing. But don’t look to the stars for help and signs and a way through your problems in life. Don’t only look to external medications to solve your internal problems. Rather learn how to let go of the minds addiction to fear and learn how to rest in the promise of right now. You may not be ecstatic right now. But you are okay. Remind your mind of that and build your potential to crate what you really, really want from the reality of who you are and what you are becoming right now.

Recovering from Fear Addiction

Is life an accident ?

If you are living in the dark it would make sense to be afraid. If you are not entirely aware of what you are doing, that can be a scary experience. After a while of living blind like that, you may start to think that everything is just random and accidental. You could be attacked at any moment. If you see the world as a dangerous place, that danger lies in wait around every corner. If you live like this, stress will become your best friend. Misery loves company they say. Indeed, those people who live lives of misery feel there is no purpose or reason to life. They live life believing if they find happiness or misery that it is just going to happen by chance. By accident. So there is nothing to strive for. No intention to keep mindful of at all. If you believe life is an accident, you will be waiting for accidents to happen all around you. As you think, so shall you be. It is natural for us as human being who live like this to be addicted to fear. Fear addiction becomes a way of life for many of us over time. We stop seeing how life is unfolding before us and for us. We become blind to the fact that life has a purpose, and that you yourself have a purpose. There is safety in purpose because it means that you are not here by accident and you will not come to your end by accident. All that Recovering from Fear Addiction means is that you are able to step out of the fear of thinking you will be squashed like an ant around every corner. Our minds are programmed to avoid being squashed and that is the very reason that fear may rule your life.

Darkness is not real

Next time you watch a horror movie or thriller, see what life is like for the people being chased and stalked. There is an intensity every time they open a curtain or turn a corner. This is what life becomes like for people who fall asleep and think that life is a nightmare. What we need to do to overcome, or start recovering from Fear Addiction is simply to mindfully start waking up. Yes. When a child is having a nightmare, you as an adult will go and wake them up and comfort them. Joel Osteen is right when he says that says that “You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.” There are no accidents as you start to wake up consciously. When you wake up, like magic, the darkness simply disappears! Darkness and nightmares are not real. They both pass like paper ships when you bring love, hope, faith, curiosity and your intentions to the party of life.

If you are walking around in the dark you should be afraid. If you allow the subconscious to lead you around each corner of life as you navigate your purpose, then you should be afraid. You will bang into a ton of walls if you cannot see where you are going. This seeing I am speaking of here is available to you. To everyone. In fact life has two parts to it. Just like everything else has a day and night, a good and bad or a right and a wrong. So you have sight and blindness. You have the seen and the unseen to deal with in life. When you start to understand that there are dark nights of the soul, but also ways through those dark nights, you have started to wake up. You need to see both. Then you will no longer be afraid of the dark, or what you cannot see.

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.” – Khalil Gibran

When I teach recovery for suicide prevention, depression and burnout I say that the way to start recovering from Fear Addiction begins with an awareness that is is happening to you. Next time a door slams in the wind and you jump, remind yourself mindfully that you are okay. When you loose a job or a relationship and you start to spiral into negativity you can do the same thing. Remind yourself that you’re okay and that there is light, purpose and intention around the next corner rather than dread, doom and gloom. When things change you can either embrace the change or retract from it.

Recovering from Fear Addiction
Recovering from Fear Addiction is your purpose

Making the choice to step out of the darkness and into the light take courage. Making the choice to see that every day you live has divine purpose and meaning to it, even if you cannot see it, takes deep inner grit, self control and even social intelligence. It takes zest, optimism and gratitude to start to see that life has deep meaning for you, for everything you do and for everyone you meet. There are no accidents. There is only a choice of what meaning you will assign to what happens to you and what you do with what happens to you. When you have a flat tire, lose a job, fail a test or end a relationship you can either let fear, anxiety and stress creep in or you can embrace the darkness of the uncertainty you see with a little light. You see, that light is consciousness for us at the end of the day. The more conscious you are the less fear there is. The more unconscious you are the more afraid you will be of the darkness.

“All the adversity I’ve had in my life, all my troubles and obstacles, have strengthened me…. You may not realise it when it happens, but a kick in the teeth may be the best thing in the world for you.”



As we start to focus on suicide prevention month I am reminded that healing is for the humble. It is not the body that must die, it is the fear that must die. We cannot mistake the body for the mind, which happens over time. What the mind believes the body starts to experience. But it is only thoughts and not real. It is the false appearing real! So we need to cast out that fear as we stop the thoughts. Not the body. If you cannot get humble enough to pray, you may need to relook at your ego-defences. Fear has a way of making us close off like no other emotion we can experience.

Dear God, I come before You to lay my panic and anxiety at Your feet.

When I’m crushed by my fears and worries,

remind me of Your power and Your grace.

Fill me with Your peace as I trust in You and You alone.

There is no fear in love.

But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.

The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

I choose today to love and not fear.

To be grateful and not judgemental and to be fearless not fearful.

Mindful and not mindless.

Hopeful and not hopeless. So be it!

Recovering from Fear Addiction

One of my favourite authors is Richard Rhor who says this about fear. “Love is the totally enlightened, entirely nonsensical way out of this pattern. Love has to be worked toward, received, and enjoyed, first of all by recognising our deep capacity for fear and hate. But remember, we gather around the negative space quickly, while we “fall into” love rather slowly, and only with lots of practice at falling.” So may you fall into love rather than fear over the next 90 days or so as you practice healing, fearlessness and faith in yourself, others, and Life. Be the change you want to see in your world as you start Recovering from Fear Addiction yourself and then start teaching others to do the same. Namaskaram!

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Spiritual Solutions for everyday problems

Spiritual Solutions for everyday problems could be called daily awakening’s. In fact this is what we think the road map to healing and life transformation could easily be called today. Awakening is about waking up the world through consciousness. Sometimes nothing more is needed than more consciousness. If we were more conscious we wouldn’t do the silly things we do. The idea is that we become more conscious and then stop doing the silly things that get us into trouble. The things that get us negative instead of positive outcomes. 

The Journey from small self, if we can label it that, is one which is laced in ego defences that will eventually get you into emotional and mental issues if you don’t realize they are no longer working and you don’t let them go. A paradigm shift is needed to get to a big self, one that is healthy and growing and balanced. The old ego personality has to go in lieu of a more authentic and courages higher self. 

“Thoroughly unprepared, we take the step into the afternoon of life. … But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little at evening and what in the morning was true, at evening will have become a lie.”

Carl Jung

People today are hitting brick walls when it comes to the pace, and pressures of life. We have something called Amygdala Hijack that occurs when our lizard brain thinks we are fighting for our very lives when in fact, the threats are way out of proportion to the reality of the environment. So the idea of an awakening is really to help people realise that it has happened to them in the first place! Then they need to learn how normal it is to go through these emotional and mental challenges that we face. Most importantly they then will come to realise that they can change their lives by taking certain steps towards mindful practice, practices of calming the mind and the body down everyday.

Do this long enough and in just 6 weeks or so the research shows us that you can significantly heal, restore and recover from almost any emotional problem that you have. And thus we see that there are Spiritual Solutions for everyday problems. All of them! You drop the story line that your mind produces with around 85 000 thoughts a day and then things actually start to change and people have said, wait a minute, are you telling me I can get out of this stuckness and depression and hell that I am in by regulating my thoughts, which regulate my breath and every neural connection, heart beat and the nervous system patterns that I have throughout each day and night, and today we can answer yes. Yes, of course you can. 

So how do you do spiritual solutions for everyday problems in your own life? How do you start the process of healing and transformation and get your life back on track like so many millions of other people are doing today? What system works and what isn’t going to work for me you may ask. Almost all of them work. It is not so much the practice you choose, but it is the doing of the practice itself that we have discovered is the thing that makes this miraculous changes that get you to start living through prefrontal cortex capability. Meditation, mindfulness, psychotherapy, life coaching and massage all work at getting you to calm the tensions that hold you hostage in your limbic, lizard mind. The problem is we don’t realise that if we intentionally practice these letting go’s and start to consciously understand their healing significance is mandatory and not optional, then you must know that you are healing your depression and anxious thoughts. 

Spiritual Solutions for everyday problems are available to everyone, everywhere, everyday. By connecting to others, trying and then mastering mindful practices like meditation, prayer, contemplation or even yoga will help you start a journey towards your own healing and awakening. Add that to practices like talking about your deep inner feelings each week or journaling, doing classes and courses and then you’re on the right track to letting go of what doesn’t work simply by becoming more conscious. That is all that happens in a psychiatrist office, a hypnotherapy session or the counselling chair. You just talk, realize, accept and then do life a little differently. So yes, you certainly can heal your life. Don’t stay stuck. 

Blessings to you! 

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