The Buddha Path to Healing Your Life

How to understand The Buddha Path to Healing Your Life and put noble truths and spiritual principles into practice in your own life can change things drastically, and quickly for you. Learn to walk the right path, and understand what that actually means in everyday life. Suffering is a major part of life. Staying stuck in suffering is not. This is the Nirvana that Buddha talked about. He encouraged us to take the road less travelled and to ease our suffering and that of the rest of the world. Healing from depression, addictions, anxiety and the stuckness that life can bring, is not necessary in today’s modern world. Learn the art of self reliance, healing and growth with us as we explore the principles and noble truths of walking a righteous path.

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Religion and The Buddha Path to Healing Your Life

As a modern Christian, or Universal Christian, I am coming to understand that division among people is just a mind-trap. Our minds are always looking for division by nature. This we call our ego, or shadow selves as Carl Jung, my favourite psychologist of all time put it. We are designed largely with a need to win, to be right, to be on the top and to be better than other people. This dichotomous thinking is always separating us from others. The protestants from the Methodists or Catholics. Even worse from the Muslims, Jews or Buddhists. It defeats the whole idea of Christianity as loving God and our neighbour. We somehow made our neighbour smaller and smaller as we evolved over the last two thousand years. We split the field more and more and in so doing created war. We killed off all our neigbours and loved only what we thought was like ourselves. So we have a lot to make up for as Christians for sure. But also as a species. We have all in one way or another created sides and divisions, which must fall if we really want to consciously evolve to any real degree. One thing we know from data and research is that Buddhism and Christianity have more similarities than differences. Perhaps we need to start appealing to the former not the latter thinking.

The Buddha Path to Healing Your Life

Buddhism can teach us a lot about how to do that. Their belief in karma, or cause and effect is beyond useful to an egoic mind and so are their ideas about the Three Universal Truths,

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the Four Noble Truths and the Eightfold Path, which together are known as the Dharma, many of which are displayed in our short Youtube video on The Buddha Path.

The Three Universal Truths are:

  1. Everything is impermanent and changing
  2. Impermanence leads to suffering, making life imperfect
  3. The self is not personal and unchanging.

The Four Noble Truths:

  1. All life involves suffering (the Truth of Suffering)
  2. Suffering is caused by desire and attachment (the Origin of Suffering)
  3. Desire and attachment can be overcome (the Truth of Cessation)
  4. The way to overcome them is by the Eightfold Path (the Truth of the Path).

The Eightfold Path:

  1. Right seeing and understanding – e.g. the Noble Truths
  2. Right thought or intention – e.g. acting considerately
  3. Right speech – e.g. avoiding lies or gossip; saying what you mean
  4. Right action – e.g. honesty and not harming living things
  5. Right work or livelihood – e.g. avoiding jobs that harm other beings
  6. Right effort – e.g. seeking to overcome desire, selfishness and attachment
  7. Right mindfulness – e.g. thinking before acting; meditation
  8. Right concentration – e.g. freeing the mind of distractions before meditation

It seems that so much of our suffering these days, and there is a lot of it, is caused and exacerbated unnecessarily. We argue, fuss, fight, blame and accuse. We judge the field and then cause one division after another. Rarely do I meet a client these days who doesn’t have at least one family member they don’t talk to, generally speaking.

Love is greatly underestimated. When we love, we leave the judgments and become open, not closed. Defence is the first act of war. Our million year old minds are always on the defensive. So, psychologically speaking what we need to do is show up without our armour with intentional vulnerability and connection as a core purpose that we hold mindfully above all else. If we start to show up not only psychologically but emotionally and spiritually as well, we will see things start to change from the bottom up. From our family and career lives, outwards. The Buddha path emphasises mindfulness, right effort and focus that we need to keep in mind in an ever changing and imperfect world. When you and I can sit together and relate through our imperfections, the ego will have no place in our relationships, marriages and decision making processes. From this standpoint, we can create better schooling, stable and inclusive societies and relationships with each other. In this way, unnecessary suffering, manifest through addictions and depression for example, will dissolve with love and oneness.

Benedizioni, Shalom and Namaste

The Story of the Cookie Thief

Don’t Make Assumptions

The Story of the Cookie Thief is an inspiration story, offered as an insightful poem that offers a brilliant life lesson to you on why we should not make assumptions too quickly. Everything is projection, and when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

This teaching will help you focus, question assumptions and help you give the benefit of the doubt to others. It will help you to choose your responses carefully. To remember that attitude is everything. It will remind you that things are not always as they may appear to be. It will remind you of our inherent judgmental sides, locked deep within our shadow selves. It is only when we are pressed and squeezed like a bunch of grapes that we can truly see what is inside of us.

This inspirational work presented as The Story of the Cookie Thief, helps us to remember to keep the main thing, the main thing. We should always focus on self first, and then give and respond from that standpoint. Our minds are geared to make assumptions at lightening speed to protect us from threats. However, our million year old brains tend to over do this and we end up being defensive in our thinking, as well as our approach to others. The first act of war is defence.

So, learning to be open minded, letting go of our harsh judgmental natures, will help us transform our lives and connect better with other people. So many of us have good intentions to spread love and peace in the world, yet we get bamboozled by automatic thinking time and again.

How many times in our lives, have we absolutely known that something was a certain way, only to discover later that what we believed to be true … was not? Be inspired. Namaste.

The Story of the Cookie Thief, the poem by Valerie Cox

A woman was waiting at an airport one night,

With several long hours before her flight.

She hunted for a book in the airport shops.

Bought a bag of cookies and found a place to drop.

She was engrossed in her book but happened to see,

That the man sitting beside her, as bold as could be.

Grabbed a cookie or two from the bag in between,

Which she tried to ignore to avoid a scene.

So she munched the cookies and watched the clock,

As the gutsy cookie thief diminished her stock.

She was getting more irritated as the minutes ticked by,

Thinking, “If I wasn’t so nice, I would blacken his eye.”

With each cookie she took, he took one too,

When only one was left, she wondered what he would do.

With a smile on his face, and a nervous laugh,

He took the last cookie and broke it in half.

He offered her half, as he ate the other,

She snatched it from him and thought… oooh, brother.

This guy has some nerve and he’s also rude,

Why he didn’t even show any gratitude!

She had never known when she had been so galled,

And sighed with relief when her flight was called.

She gathered her belongings and headed to the gate,

Refusing to look back at the thieving ingrate.

She boarded the plane, and sank in her seat,

Then she sought her book, which was almost complete.

As she reached in her baggage, she gasped with surprise,

There was her bag of cookies, in front of her eyes.

If mine are here, she moaned in despair,

The others were his, and he tried to share.

Too late to apologize, she realized with grief,

That she was the rude one, the ingrate, the thief.

One of the most profound things that I have learned by teaching people self-reliance over the last decade, is that almost everything out there is a projection. It is a projection of what we are experiencing on the inside. One way of describing that is when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change, and that can be very, very true for a lot of people, for example, who have left treatment, left a wellness experience, and have gone home and said to people in the home, “guys you can stop mucking about now, please stop being so nice. I really don’t need you to be anything other than yourselves…only to have the family say, “But we’re not putting anything on, we have always been like this!” And, the person who had to go through a spiritual awakening has gone home to something completely different. And nothing has changed except themselves. So change can be really profound.

Rumi said we are the mirror, as well as the face in it. We are tasting the taste of this eternity in a minute. That is exactly how the yin and yang of life tend to go. You know, people talk about projection in terms of how we see a movie. We see a 2D image on a screen, and we could fall in love with those characters far more than we fall in love with the real ones in our lives.

The family for example, of the person who went home and saw that everything changed, and felt the love and the warmth of people that was there all along, which she could never feel inside, although she yearned for it.

There is an inspirational poem by Valerie Cox. It is called the Cookie Thief. It is about projection and about us making egoic demands on ourselves, where we perceive and get the wrong picture in the end.


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12 Big Promises of Addiction Recovery

12 Guarantees you’ll make it

The 12 Big Promises of Addiction Recovery of alcoholics anonymous will work for you. Boom! That is confidence that you don’t see very often, and after thorough testing, we have come to believe every word of it. How to start recovering from Substance Abuse issues and other addictions is not always easy. How to heal from addictions may be best understood with knowing why we should do it. Nietzsche said that He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how. If we can understand that we can replace so many of the negatives in our lives with real, high quality positives then we are set to benefit greatly from doing the work.

The 12 step promises of alcoholics anonymous, in the first step, offer you a guarantee of switching out addictive desperation for real hope. So here are 12 Big Addiction Recovery Promises for you. Namste. THE BIG BOOK AND THE THE 12 STEP PROMISES OF ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS So what exactly does the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous say about addiction recovery? Well, it tells you that if you work their system of recovery, you are going to heal your addiction problems. It is either absolute madness, or one of the most remarkable promises that one could make. In my experience, since 1997, I can say that the latter is true. It is oddly amazing that the program actually works. Developed in 1930, it has helped millions recover. It is super simple. It is comprised only of 12 simple steps that can be done, for the first time, in four hours or so. It is also a addiction recovery program that can be repeated for a lifetime.

The 12 step promises of alcoholics anonymous is something worth taking a second look at, if you may have overlooked it in the past. Although it is a simple program of addiction recovery, it does contain a ton of wisdom. People like Carl Jung were involved in its development. It was designed to foil the mind out of unhealthy habits. Not an easy feat at all. It was designed as a system that would allow people to go above themselves, or in other words transcend their own thinking. Get into a program is our suggestion. Start today, and stop bloody staying stuck! It is not worth living a low quality life. You can and will recover, if you follow the steps, or a similar system of recovery. We offer all of them. So this is the original wording about the 12 step promises of alcoholics anonymous that the Big Book offers us. Read it carefully and consider each line. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others.

That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves. Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly.

They will always materialize if we work for them ” – From the 12 step promises of alcoholics anonymous ABOUT OUR CENTER Ultimate, modern addiction, depression and anxiety recovery resources for people wanting to recover through addiction treatment and transform their lives, heal, enrich and grow. Providing unique and advanced 12 step and alcoholics anonymous options as well as alternatives to depression clinics, drug rehab centres and other places that may not suit an individuals needs to grow, develop and heal holistically from whatever is holding them back from improving their personal lives. Residential stays at our center through to state of the art personal development systems, that help people in addiction recovery to heal, renew and grow in the long term. Boost, exceed, inspire and create your best life in the manner which suits your personal preferences best.

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10 signs you have Peter Pan Syndrome


  1. They don’t like to continue conversations about adult topics.
  2. They live in a dream world with loads of ideas and little or no action ever evolving.
  3. They act like the jester or the clown at social events, trying to dodge any adult talk about feelings, growth and their own evolution.
  4. They still rely on others, especially parents, to help them make all their decisions.
  5. He or she acts like a narcissist, and is self centered.
  6. He loves hanging around with the lost boys a little too much.
  7. He likes Tinkerbell’s fairy dust and is addicted to substances.
  8. They make light of everything to the point of annoyance and never deliver.
  9. They are unemployed and can’t hold down a steady job and blame it on bad breaks.
  10. Fear of commitment. Staying undecided and always in limbo is a sure sign of a Pan

Watch 10 Signs you may be addicted to Neverland and be a Peter Pan

Over-controlling parents who shelter their children far too much may have kids who want to stay in a child-hood state of immaturity. Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome requires one to not only grow up, but to take responsibility for themselves and others they care for. It requires getting your head out of Neverland and into the real world that requires contribution, effort and maturity. Peter Pan syndrome is a pop psychology term in addiction treatment referring to someone, usually a man, who does not want to enter adult life.

Although it can affect both sexes, it appears more often among men. We don’t want to be gender bias. We do see almost an equal gender split of Peter Pan syndrome sufferers in our wellness and drug rehabilitation center these days. They are those adult folks, who have the body of an adult but the mind of a child. Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome is not always easy. It requires awareness of the issue first and foremost. The syndrome means he or she does not want to work, take any responsibilities, and wants everyone around them to support his lifestyle.

They don’t want to stop being children and start being mothers or fathers. Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome requires acceptance of the symptomology at some point, so that new action can be taken. Grown men playing games, video games, and being the fun and life of the party can be very endearing at first, even lovable. But many woman and partners tend to leave these kinds of partners as the consequences of the child-like behaviours start to surface. When the fun and games wear thin through the course of life’s real demands and issues, people tend to move on in search of a more grounded and mature partner.

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Mental Health Retreats South Africa

Your Healing and Wellness center

Some people go and relax at the spa, and hope it will heal their depression. It may ease the symptoms, but a holiday or getaway seldom does the job of real life transformation. People who suffer from depression, anxiety, addictions or burnout often need what Mental Health Retreats South Africa can offer. Counseling for individuals and in small groups allow for connection when hosted by an experienced therapist. Mindfulness classes, yoga and silent retreats coupled with good therapy can radically change your life in a short space of time. Today there is no stigma involved in going to sort your self out properly.

What to expect at Mental Health Retreats South Africa

Loads of fun. Lots of hard work on the self. Expect new, exciting and wonderful self discoveries in the first few days. You will quickly realize that there is no need to stay stuck! It’s a stupid…

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