21 WAYS TO PRACTICE CONTEMPLATION – How to practice contemplation

Contemplation Practice is about openly, honestly and lovingly taking a good look as much at reality as we can possibly handle at any given point in time, without having to get the defenses of your mind out of the way. To do that we need to show up for ourselves and start thinking more deeply about what we are actually thinking. To do that we need to get the endless drone of our mind-chatter out of the way.

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Contemplation Practice is about openly, honestly and lovingly taking a good look, as much at reality, as we can possibly handle at any given point in time, without having to get the defences of your mind out of the way. 21 ways to practice contemplation will show you how to heal and then transform your life.

To do that we need to show up for ourselves and start thinking more deeply about what we are actually thinking. To do that, we need to get the endless drone of our mind-chatter out of the way. 

Contemplative Practices are like doorways or portals that provide the bear attention of present moment transcendence, simple self-awareness that can allow you to mindfully be focused and aware of one’s deeper thoughts and emotions. 

A contemplative practice helps you to “awaken your inner observer”. Aristotle said that contemplation is known both as the highest form of activity, and also it is the most continuous, because we are more capable of continuous contemplation more so than we are aware of any other practical activity. So it is doing everything and nothing all at the same time. And it is truly wonderful to experience it!

The part of your brain that lights up when your Sacred Self is activated is the opposite area of your brain that is activated when you are in ego’s defensive, survival mind. Here are 21 WAYS TO PRACTICE CONTEMPLATION so that you can experience yourself, others, and the universe far more wholly, and holistically for yourself. 

Contemplative practices develop many aspects of ourselves. As practices disciplines of body and mind, they share a number of benefits:

  • Mindfulness and profound self-awareness
  • Awareness of physical movements, posture and rhythms of the body
  • Attention
  • A holistic approach to well-being
  • Balance
  • Empathy, compassion, and connectivity to all things internal and external
  •   Self-awareness, self-regulation, self-inquiry 
  •   Psychological transformation and mental training

“We must go beyond the constant clamor of ego, beyond the tools of logic and reason, to the still, calm place within us: the realm of the soul.” – Deepak Chopra

Contemplative practices quiet the mind in order to cultivate the capacity for deeper awareness of what is and are practical, radical, and transformative, developing capacities for deep concentration and quieting the mind in the midst of the action and distraction that fills everyday life. This state of calm centeredness is an aid to exploration of meaning, purpose and values. Contemplative Practices are designed to quiet the mind in the midst of the stress and distraction of everyday interconnectedness with all life. 


1. Gratitude Practice 

People who regularly practice gratitude by taking time to notice and reflect upon the things they’re thankful for experience more positive emotions, feel more alive, sleep better, express more compassion and kindness, and even have stronger immune systems. Gratitude is the opposite of your minds best friend, judgement. Name 5 things you are grateful for as you wake up and before you go to sleep and don’t ever underestimate what the power of gratitude can do for you.  

2. Contemplative Communication in Relationships

Typically, we associate being contemplative as part of a spiritual practice one does on their own, but in order to relate to others we need to go inside ourselves. We need to become vulnerable and open up into connection if we want deep meaningful relationships to last. Relationships all need sacred space to flourish. In Imago Relationship Therapy, they teach couples a dialogue process which embodies the notion of contemplative communication. 

The process creates a safe space for couples to go deeper and experience stronger connection. Asking What do I bring into that space in my relationships? Is it stress, anxiety or perhaps shame, blame and criticism? Some of us are defensive and closed and quiet by nature while others scream, shout and force themselves to be heard and understood. Learning contemplative communication starts with enough trust to know that you’re able to regulate your emotions long enough to allow reality of the situations at hand to remain out there. Love is a verb. There is little more loving than allowing others space and time to feel, think, connect and contemplate.

3. Contemplative Walking 

Walking is still said to be the best all round exercise a person can do today. Contemplative Walking, especially in nature, brings you closer to nature and your body, the internal is drawn to the external and vice versa. Wear comfortable clothing and open shoes, or no shoes. Become aware of the heal to toe and knee to foot and hip rhythms as you slowly walk feeling and hearing the ground beneath your feet and staying conscious of your balanced breathing. Turn the volume down on your internal mind-chatter and when you attention drifts, bring it back by naming what you see, and then contemplating that “tree” or “wave” or “butterfly” for a brief moment, noticing how everything is as connected as you are to the ground. Lift your arms whenever you remember to and take deep breaths. A gentle greeting, bow or hand wave to people, objects and animals can make you even more connected if you are willing to be a little out there with your thinking. 

4. Silent Retreat 

When last did you do no talking in silence, only listening. It may be no coincidence that listen and silent both contain the same letters. You may be surprised how vocal we can be out of pure habit. Scrolling on phones, chatting to a partner, all form no part of a retreat like this. Silent retreats are a tool to help us to master obsessive thoughts, the habit of mindlessness and to connect with self, Higher Power and nature. Being contemplative is deliberately focusing your attention on the present moment. This means becoming comfortable with stillness and silence, striving to grow in awareness of your thoughts and feelings without judgment. By getting in touch with the here and now, you can let go of the stress of regretting the past or obsessively worrying about the future. Enjoy a silent retreat by:

  • Start with intention by taking your own vow of silence for 20 minutes or so in the beginning. 
  • Keep quiet and sit. Preferably in nature but anywhere will do. Phones off. No smoking. Consciously focus on the present moment. Start by focusing on your breath, and keep gently reminding yourself to return your attention to your breath. Breathe deeply. Purposefully. 
  • Gradually work on paying attention to other sensations in your body and what’s around you. Look at the sights nearby and appreciate what is beautiful. Connect to it all. Listen to the sounds and observe colour and light. But no running off with your thinking where possible. Savour the scents. Noticing is a gift. Embrace all that you can fully experience in this one moment.
  • Just Be
  • When your thoughts start to wander return your attention to this one moment in time. Experience the sensation of being safe and at peace right here and right now. Silently ask for what you really need. Let go, and become the silence and just be like it is. Be like silence. 
  • You can also use a Centering word or sentence to bring you back out of your thoughts. You may use: All is well. I am well. All manner of things are well, to  keep you centered in the silence.  
  • Relax. This Contemplative Practice takes practice. You’ll get better over time. As Lao Tzu once said “Muddy water, let stand, becomes clear.”

5. Contemplative Pages 

Contemplative pages are central to the practice of Sacred Journaling. It follows stream of consciousness writing and is designed as a free association kind of exercise more than anything else. Practice upon waking, or when the thought to write crosses your mind. Go and do it.  This practice is a purgation that brings catharsis and a refreshing release that has somehow helped many people find healing and peace over the centuries. Set a timer for 20 minutes or just write 3 pages of long hand if possible, letting go of all ideas of perfectionism and wrong and right. The main thing is to just let thoughts flow onto paper. No one should see these pages ever, that can really disrupt the flow of what may need to materialise from heart to head and hand to paper. Write without thinking and see what flows from the writing. There is no wrong way to do Contemplative Pages and seldom have I ever heard of anyone who did not have a profound personal break through after a few days of writing. 

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.”

— Phillippians 4:6

6. Practise Contemplative Art

It can also be called Slow Art, Zen art, or Mindfulness Drawing. But what we are interested in most here is how it gets us to awaken to reality and presence. Before you get pencil and paper out, try and prepare to be a contemplative artist, just for today. Why not try out the artistic persona for a while? Our minds are our records of the past. Taking mental short cuts is second nature to the brains daily activities. The consequence however is that we can loose the gist of really seeing things. 

Contemplative Art is a Zenful practice that helps us to re-appreciate as we re-see things again. Photographers and artists alike have shared how practicing Contemplative Art, is meditative by nature, and has changed the way they see images, things and even the world itself. Gaze rather than glance at all the art you have around your home. Paintings, carvings, ornaments; when was the last time you really noticed them? Gaze out your window frame and see the contents as works of art. Now draw, scribble, do a stick man sketch…anything that comes to mind. Create something, anything, everything. Contemplative Art practices naturally induce a contemplative state of consciousness and provide personal insight. 

21 ways to practice contemplation

7. Lectio Divina

Lectio Divina is Contemplative reading or divine reading. This Lectio Divina, or sacred reading involves taking short pieces of text and really focusing on the words and their deeper meanings. Make more conscious contact with God in 4 simple steps. Saint John of the Cross said Seek in reading and you will find it in meditation; knock in prayer and it will be opened to you in contemplation.Read a text, meditate, pray and then contemplate the mystical experience. There is no need to analyse or direct or even understand what you read ass much as to focus on how the words relate to you personally. Practice alone or with others and approach the practice with an open mind and an attitude of reverential hearing. You may be profoundly surprised at what you can start to understand from this wisdom practice. 

8. Centering Practice

Centering is an incredible tool for stress relief and can be used before you do anything that you may ordinarily find stressful. Your brain needs to be practice softening instead of tensing, and staying open instead of activating stress responses like fight, flight or freeze. 

Use this at an important meeting, recital, public speaking engagement or sports event. If stressed focus consciously on the breath. Then do some lunges, flap your arms, straighten your spine, or tense and then release your muscles throughout your body. Many actors do this before walking on stage. Then find your center and then redirect your energy, body and mind back to your purpose and intentions which may be to share your talents, your words and thoughts with others. This tends to keep the main thing, the main thing and can even be achieved by repeating a centering word, phrase or mantra. It is a beautiful practice of letting go and just accepting being yourself.

9. Akido

Aikido means the way of harmonizing energy and Aikido trains your mind to control your body’s reactions using mindfulness and energy, shakti, or chi. This holds that all physical and mental power comes from the flow of energy around your body. Energy is lost when you are tense or stressed, but Centering redirects negative energy in a beneficial way. Another four part contemplative practice that starts with breathing calmly and focusing, then seeing yourself as centred in a ball of bright, warm colours. Next you consciously feel gravity supporting you as it weights on your body, your arms and legs and steadies you. Fourthly, gently think of three main qualities you want to embody like peace, purpose or harmony. 

10. Contemplative Prayer 

You don’t need to be religious to practice Contemplative Prayer or sacred communication, because with Contemplative Prayer other faculties are actively employed in an effort to understand our relationship with God. Contemplative prayer curtails the ordinary and has been described simply as “a gaze of faith”, or “a silent love”. Contemplative prayer is all about remaining silently and openly there, in God’s presence and almost instantaneously rewires our brains to think with empathy, love and compassion. It allows us to experience God as Mystery rather than just what we think we know. Holding this space, we can begin to let go knowing that All is one with Divine Reality. 

What is contemplative prayer? St. Teresa said that Contemplative prayer in my opinion is nothing else than a close sharing between friends; it means taking time frequently to be alone with Him who we know loves us. Contemplative prayer seeks him ‘whom my soul loves’. God is beyond being and is a hyper-being; God is beyond the gulf of nothingness that we think separates us from God and all things Divine. There is no separation in reality and Contemplative prayer helps us to see this for ourselves. 

11. Mindfulness Practice

The Rain method of Recognise, Allow, Investigate and Nurture is as simple as mindfulness practice can get and as complicated as it ever needs to be. When we practice mindfulness, we’re practicing the art of creating space for ourselves to think, space to breathe, space between ourselves and our reactions and actions. Any Mindfulness Practice is about the quality, or state, of being conscious or aware of something. 

12. Yoga Nidra 

Yoga nidra or yogic sleep is a state of consciousness between waking and sleeping, like the “going-to-sleep” stage, typically induced by a guided meditation. It helps us to embrace and hold liminal space for ourselves, which is the space between where we have come from and where we are going to. To practice Yoga nidra start by repeating a clear intention you have for yourself several times. Next, rotate your awareness through one side of your body in quick succession. Fingers, then hands, then limbs and so on, repeating your intentions or mantra whenever you become conscious of saying it. It is not called yogic sleep for nothing and people often fall asleep doing this practice, which is more than okay. Use a guided Yoga Nidra video or audio if you can to help you.

13. Practice of the 5 Contemplative Life Questions

This practice comes from the area of Contemplative Intelligence or CQ. 5 fundamental life questions are as profound as they are healing. The right contemplative questions will open the doors to knowing the right answers. Spending a few minutes contemplating each of these questions will bring some stress and then comfort follows. You see, all these questions need to be known and are known. We have come from somewhere, have become something, and are going somewhere with it all. Practice of the 5 Fundamental Life Questions:

Where have I been?

Who am I?

Where am I now?

Why am I where I am right now?

Where am I going?

14. The Power of the Anjali Mudra Practice (prayer hands).

Anjali Mudra is a powerful, super simple and quick practice to help you instantly rebalance. It is when you bring right and left hands together and more significantly, right and left brain together in yoga; and of course in prayer. Obsessive thinking, depression, stress and coping are all about not being able to be here now in the present moment. Comfort zones are our most preferred addiction. As much as monkey mind is an addiction to non-presence and chaos, to the rubbish of yesterday and tomorrow, so we can all become very stuck in the way we DO life. There are many definitions of Anjali Mudra. Most are misunderstood. The main essence of the super simple practice is that of returning to the heart, to a state of composure. This is the only way we must tackle any of life’s problems. Never with “Monkey Mind”. Hands together as a sign of your intention to stay open, humble and connected to life, other people and nature itself is enough to ensure you grow spiritually in your life. 

15. Contemplative Prayer 

Contemplative prayer, remaining silently and openly in God’s presence, rewires our brains to think with compassion, kindness, and a lack of attachment to the ego’s preferences. We begin to move beyond language and experience God as Mystery. We let go of our need to judge, defend, or evaluate, plugging into the mind of Christ which welcomes paradox and knows its true identity in God. During contemplation we come to know that there is no separation between sacred and secular. All is one with Divine Reality.

16. The Work 

The work was developed by Byron Katie and is rooted in contemplation, as the art of seeing reality as it is. The Work is contemplation. It is a method of inquiry into self. This practice allows you to access the wisdom that always, always exists within you. Whenever you are stuck, confused, lost or cannot find any answers to problems that you feel you have, ask yourself four simple questions and write the answers down. Worksheets are available free online. 

Q1. Is it true?

Q2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true?

Q3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?

Q4. Who would you be without that thought?

With the work we question stressful thoughts head on, and through that questioning the thoughts lose their power over us. Great spiritual texts describe the what—what it means to be free. The Work is the how. It shows you exactly how to identify and question any thought that would keep you from that freedom. To begin, drop into stillness and observe what arises in the mind’s eye.

17. Concentration Practice of Cloud Shifting 

Doctor Wayne Dyer used to practice the art of Cloud Shifting whenever he wanted to connect to the universe more deeply. Gaze at the clouds for a few minutes. Then simply make shapes with the clouds. Create as creation does. Connect as it does and see how powerful you can be when you are cool, clam and collected consciously. The sky really is the limit to what we can do, and whom we can become. 

18. Qigong

Qigong practices are combined contemplative body practices and meditation techniques that emerge from Chinese philosophical, medical, and martial traditions. Qigong is movement and breath in unison. People practice qigong for recreation, exercise, relaxation, preventive medicine, self-healing, alternative medicine, meditation, self-cultivation, and training for martial arts. In Qigong you focus on rhythmic breathing, settle the mind and then relax the body. Then you learn to move and breathe in unison. Unison, much like Yoga, is what this practice is all about. 

19. Questing or Pilgrimage Practice 

Go on a journey to somewhere where interesting things have happened that appeal to you. Discover how people lived, thought and loved. How they worked, what they ate. Discover what their spiritual practices were. We have become so used to being entertained when we go on a vacation somewhere. Instead, discover traditions, roots and ancestors on your quest. Adventure may be calling you to embrace more mystery, uncertainty and adventure in your life. 

20. Cultivate a beginners Mind

Re-look at everything you have ever seen. Re-listen, re-learn and re-imagine reality. Our perceptions have changed since we first thought about an apple, an ocean, or an insect. Yet our mind and its mental short-cut tendencies are flooded with daily habit making that make us eat the same food, get out of bed on the same side, shower in the same way and dress or brush our hair and teeth a certain way. 

Try to cultivate a beginners mind as a daily contemplative practice, also known as Shoshin in Zen. We can experience the world in a fresh new way today, no matter what our past may have been like. If you think the world is a bad and evil place, look outside your window right now. Even though human thinking is extremely primitive, broken even, the world, people and places are still intrinsically good. The world is a beautiful, big and mysterious place for us to explore and navigate until the day we move on to whatever lies next. Re-examine everything, everyday as you re-cultivate a beginners mind. 

21. Radical Self Love

Self Love means having a high regard for your own well-being and happiness. Self-love means taking care of your own needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please others. Cultivate self love by stopping comparing and judging others, and yourself. In turn let go of the opinions of others. Love is patient, kind, generous, unafraid, and is not selfish. So loving yourself more deeply each day is something everyone can benefit from. A practice you can try is to go on a date alone. Spend quality time in places you love, on your own. Self love allows us the space and the time to become more conscious and contemplative of who we are, where we have been and where we are going in life. Practice radical self love daily knowing that you cannot give away anything you don’t already have yourself. You can’t give patience, generosity or selflessness if you don’t have it to give!


So now we know that the contemplative state of mind is rather a state of being and a way of living. It is about giving and receiving, listening and making sounds, stillness and movement, breath and no-breath. It is being present to the real moment, rather than it being lost by the ego’s endless judgements. You may resonate more with some practices than others, which is perfect practice. There is no right or wrong way to practice contemplation “If you’re doing it, you’re doing it right!” Namaste. 

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21 Ways to Transform your life

Here are 21 Ways to Transform your life that you won’t come back from. In other words, they are changes that will stick in the long term. We all have anchors, some good and some bad, that we build upon our foundations of truth, of who we really are. 

People have spoken about transformation for centuries, but in practice it is no easy task. We have all tried to better ourselves and have failed. In fact we have done so many trial and error projects on ourselves that by the time we are adults, we subconsciously stop setting goals. We are tired of never reaching the finish line, so we simply stop running the longer races. The ones with bigger pay-off’s. Soon mediocrity sets in with the accompanying desperation and feelings of emptiness that come with settling for less in life. But there is another way. Every now and again we rise up like a phoenix from the ashes and make big changes. 

That is what we are talking about when it comes to transformation. The really big changes that define you come from a soul on fire. Nothing less. Mark is talking about change that go above and beyond your normal, your personality and daily character traits. With the right intrinsic motivation, and the right maps and goals we can do almost anything we set our minds to. These 21 Ways to Transform your life are a road map to these big changes. Transformation describes the process of change and going beyond your form and norm, and this process can help you really, really, really heal, change and then transform your life for good. Although transformation is, and should be, a never ending process much like the cosmos itself, it is great to start the process. A start with a big-bang so to speak. So, ignite your full potential. It is a journey that starts here. 

21 Ways to Transform your life

1. RE-APPRECIATE LIFE. Shift from Judgement to Gratitude. Appreciate the things you may normally overlook. It is very easy for us to slip into a judgemental attitude that ends up with us feeling that what we have and do is never enough. Make a list of things you are grateful for. The more you appreciate the blessings in your life, the more blessings there will be to appreciate. Start the day with 5 things you are grateful for. Try not to judge them, try not to judge yourself and even God because it is not God who is judgemental but our ego’s, which have a tendency to judge others as wrong, or different or distrustful and malicious. Rather, judgement comes from our ego, which edges God out (e.g.o)

2. PUT ON PRESENCE. Be the presence of love, compassion, peace, forgiveness and possibility. Become a witness and don’t get lost in a train of thoughts. Eckhardt Tolle says that “Presence is what happens when we are no longer waiting for the next moment, believing that the next moment will be more fulfilling than this one. If people talk about a strong police presence they are referring to the way that their presence is really felt at the time and place where they are situated. When we develop a strong sense of presence fo ourselves we start to show up for ourselves and cultivate our throat chakra, which is where we find our voice and are really heard when we need to be heard. A tall oak tree has incredible presence in a forest and everything about it stands out in a forest full of trees.

Presence is not something that we can force. It mostly come from an authentic place of knowing who you truly are, and then presenting that real, raw and naked persona to the world. Who you are is divine by nature and being truly yourself will start to attract others to what you have to say, even if it takes a little more time to be heard than louder people, when you are heard and seen your presence will be felt and then remembered. Shakespeare taught us to thine on self be true. When you are fully emerged in presence there is nothing to hide, or make or keep hidden in the shadows. Being yourself like that oak trees, who is 100 percent being that oak tree, will start to set you free from anything that hinders you allowing yourself to be who you really are. 

3. NOURISH YOUR SOUL. – Before you do anything significant ever again, ask yourself this question. Does this Nourish my Soul.The acronym of which is D.T.N.M.S. so it can be remembered easily as another simple road map to better consequences and happiness in life. If it doesn’t nourish your soul, consider not doing it. There would be little point in doing anything that won’t help you develop and grow as a person who is in the world to contribute significantly to it. 

4. BECOME CERTAIN OF WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. – Know what you really, really, really want and pursue that daily. If someone gave you three wishes you may squander them on material things, cars, vacations or money. You may really believe that those things will bring you happiness and a sense of peace and calm, finally being able to have what you want. As we know from Hollywood, having what you think you want doesn’t always work out too well. Chase the wrong things and the wrong things will chase you back. So, become very certain of what you really want. You may just find that it is peace, bliss, self-love and balance that you want more than things like a busy career and a fast lifestyle. 

5. LOOK WITHIN. Look inward as opposed to outwards. This is a habit and a mind-hack. We automatically blame, and have a dichotomous mind. It came from our need to judge things so harshly for survival as a child. Focus on yourself first. If you want to change the world, you must begin with yourself. Use I statements when you catch yourself controlling, judging or playing the victim card, a card we all pull from time to time. Tolerance, love. Let go of the desire to win. 

6. PRACTICE CONTEMPLATION Practice contemplation everyday. Develop daily awareness by becoming truly aware of everything around you. Contemplation is simply the art of thinking properly and without distortions. As adults we may find that we don’t even really notice the cloud, animals and the wonder of people anymore. Noticing is a gift. We get used to the wonder of food and water, rainbows, the seasons and even the kind things people do for us. Without contemplation we become complacent. 

7. MORNING PAGES. I was taught long ago that reading and writing are essential to any life transformation process and have found that to be true after doing over 20 000 hours of therapy over the years. All you need to do is wake up and write 3 pages without trying to even think about what you’re putting on paper. Morning pages can be done as you wake up. Grab a coffee, then simply write 3 pages every day for a few weeks at a time. No one should ever see these pages except you. The bedrock tool of a creative self transformation project is a daily practice of creating these Morning Pages which are written longhand as a stream of consciousness. They are what Freud liked to call an exercise in free association. You write without thinking and see what flows from the writing. There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages and seldom have I ever heard of anyone who did not have a profound personal break through after a few days of writing.

8. CULTIVATE PURPOSE. Find meaning and purpose. We will show you how to do that right now. The world is misinformed that we must seek out a purpose. No. Our purpose is all the same. Our purpose, your purpose is to be a central part of everything else. We are all here to contribute and make the world a better place. Your job on this earth is no less important than a queens, a priest, teacher or astronaut’s role in life. This is not a human centric universe. We are a small part of a much larger, possibly infinite whole. Don’t get lost trying to find your purpose and meaning in life. Recognize that we are all the same and our purpose is all the same. We are meant to be light in a dark world, hopeful in hopeless times, wise when answers are needed and loving when hate manifests itself. You need never be lost again. Love is the meaning of life. Your purpose is the very same as ever Muslim, Christian, Jew and believer to become more conscious and awaken yourself, so in turn you can awaken others who may be sleeping. Never doubt the importance of your life purpose as it is a divine mandate from a loving and all inclusive universe that has chosen you to be the light that darkness has not yet understood.

9. FACE THE FEAR. Do something that scares you. F.E.A.R. avoidance brings 10 000 times more suffering. Face your fears what are only presented as imagery in your mind, knowing that you are always okay. Maybe not ecstatic but at the very least okay. We are always suffering our thoughts of the future and creating states of mind that do not actually exist, even though they may, they do not. so we are suffering imaginary ghosts in our imaginations that will almost always never come into existence. A course in miracles states that fear creates a state that does not exist, and that it is perfect love that casts out that fear. It is for this reason that the acronym for fear I like most for fear is False Evidence Appearing Real. Remember that you are here to experience life and not avoid it. People who tend to want to experience life rather than avoid it have far, far greater rewards than those who are fearful in their minds. So remember that Fear is a product of a hallucinatory mind. When you root yourself in reality you will be able to sense the love that A Course in Miracles talks about. So next time you are afraid affirm to yourself that perfect love casts out all fear….but only every time.

10. DROP RESENTMENT. Let go of resentments.  Number 1 offender. Let go of regret. Learn to Forgive. 

11. FOLLOW THE GREAT CHAIN OF BEING. Develop your behaviour chain. Trigger, thought, feeling, your behaviour or what you do and then the consequences of that behaviour. As humans we have a behaviour chain that starts simply with experiences from our 5 senses. You don’t experience anything more that. Add a second thought after every encounter with people, places, things, conversations and situations. That second thought can change your consequences for the better in a very short space of time. Pause for five seconds before you react to any person or situation. Pausing will give you an opportunity to choose a loving and empowering response instead of reacting on autopilot. Feel your feelings. They alert you to what is going on in your mind; and they can guide you towards your purpose and passions in life. People often start the chain with God. Start with a stone. Then a flower. Then an animal. Then a child…. And so on. 

12. CONNECTION Connect with Source, Self and Others. Spend time in nature. Stop to contemplate the birds flying by or the people playing with their dogs in the park. Sharing is connection. Leave a kind note or a dollar. Love and be loved. Practice listening and connecting. Practice You are Just like that. When others irritate you with their remarks, even their erratic driving or insensitivity at times. Remember how you are just like that sometimes. We are highly emotional beings and everyone is on a unique level of transformation so always do what you do to be transformation itself. Go above the form or the situation. 

13. THE THREE A’S. Practice the 3 A’s Awareness, Acceptance, and new-Action. Accept things that fall outside your circle of control — like the weather, long line at the grocery store or opinion of others. Save your energy for more important things.Acceptance is the answer. Don’t get too easily frustrated that things have not changed yet. Taking action comes after awareness of what is happening for you and then acceptance of what is happening, no matter what happens you will always be okay. The proof of this is you, right here today, right now. Life surely has not been perfect for anyone and it is oftentimes laced in traumas, pains and hurts that we actually survived. Most of us have imagined far more pain than we have experienced, and a wild imagination brings paralyzing fear with it. Become aware of your problems, learn to accept them and form that space you can take positive action to heal, grow and renew what you need to. 

14. MINIMALISM. Practice minimalism as a form of balance in your life. Empty your plate if your life is unmanageable, chaotic and busy. Learn to let go of your need to control outcomes and amass things. Be a river. Minimalism – lighten your load. I turn this over to God, help me with a decision. Knock, ask and then receive. This is the natural way of things. We need to learn to not glorify busyness, stress, full calendars and endless hours at a desk. No. You are more likely to end up miserable than happy when you indulge in the excess of work. Work is a 24 hour a day job that needs minimising where minimising is necessary. Sleep, play, connection, relationships, reading and appreciating sunsets with an open, calm and contemplative mind is also work. More important work than most other work. If you cannot and do not do these things, you may be lost in the easier part of life. Yes, being a bank manager, entrepreneur or hotel owner or accountant for that matter is far easier than the other work you need to do of calming your mind and regulating your emotions.

15. INTENTION. Set a daily Intention. Stay focused on your intentions each and every day. Who AM I? Where have I been? Where am I going?

16. SILENCE. Experience Silence. Listen to source. It is all happening within you. Peace, quiet and  solitude rather than obsessive thinking, compulsions…Just go within. Spend 20 minutes a day in contemplation and silence. We can become addicted to external validation, rather than internal validation.

17. ALWAYS ON. Stay switched on. Don’t ever allow other people, places or things to shut you off. If people gossip or are unkind about you, or if you feel that people are judging you; don’t allow it to let you close yourself off. If you close off every time someone offends you, you will be on and off like a light switch. Rather than being sometimes closed off and then struggle trying to get into an open and connected space again can be a permanent struggle we have with life. Instead, if things don’t seem to be going your way, know that there are no accidents in Gods world. Stay open to the possibility that things are happening for you and not to you.

Realize that big and small things alike tend to work themselves out for your good in the end. The universe is a gentle, loving and kind place that never misses a beat. If it did, and the moon, sun or earth moved just one degree or two, or sped up or slowed down even just a little, that it would all spin wildly out of control in seconds. Everything including you is being taken care of, or being done. Your heart beats while you sleep and food turns into energy and proteins without your help. Stay switched on and see how deeply your life will begin to transform. 

18. I AM VS AM I. Go from Am I to I Am. At first, There is doubt and confusion and uncertainty there which can bread fear. You are not your name or even your personality, mask. The question fo Am I this, or that….am I going to go there, am I doing this correctly are all filled with doubt and uncertainty. Go beyond this limited thinking and transcend the doubt by witching things around. Change Am I statements to I Am statements that you can practise everyday. I am loved, I am on purpose. I am okay, and connected and growing rather than wondering if you are, make the statement to that effect. When God was asked what his name was He replied I am with a profound sense of omnipotent certainty without the doubt of what that included. Be mindful of what words you put after the small but powerful two little words I am, because they will become your reality. 

19. BECOME A MYSTIC. Embrace the unknown. Become a mystic. Needing to know is dis-ease. We might as well face the inevitable truth that as humans we know almost nothing about the Universe, the ocean or even our won bodies for that matter. No one still knows or agrees what is inside even one of the trillion cells in our bodies. Get comfortable with the idea that we will always have far more questions ahead of us than answers. The mind loves answers and despises it when it can’t find one, to the point where the mind can create a state of fight, flight and freeze it it feels threatened by what can or could happen at any given moment. Rather embrace the mystery of life by choice. Become comfortable with not knowing and let go of your minds attachment to the need to know. By accepting what comes to us as if we chose it, as if we know it is on purpose will change the very way we live and love in our lives. The real mystery of life is that we are divine beings, infinitely loved and that love is our true nature, just like the nature of Good and everything else that is connected through a great mystery. 

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Rather embrace the mystery if life by choice. Become comfortable with not knowing and let go of your minds attachment to the need to know. By accepting what comes to us as if we chose it, as if we know it is on purpose will change the very way we live and love in our lives. The real mystery of life is that we are divine beings, infinitely loved and that love is our true nature, just like the nature of Good and everything else that is connected through a great mystery. 

20. BE YOU. Thinking is not living. Our thinking is oftentimes so distorted our very own thinking can become the enemy within. Love you. Forgive you. We were created from a spirit of pure love and that is how we can operate on a daily basis. Make your own authentic nature a non-compromising part of yourself. Let go of the masks and the personality traits that no longer serve you. Notice your tendencies to people please, or blame, judge, control or to be codependent and start to let those things go. We will always be in pain when we avoid or mask who we truly are and how we truly feel. Dont die with your music still in you. Dont allow others, or their expectations of you to change who you really are. 


Everything in life is in a process. There is a time and a season for everything. When difficult times come it can be hard to remember the This To Shall Pass philosophy and we can get lost in problems that we think are permanent. Everything is changing and is subject to impermanence. Nothing stays the same and everything is miraculously evolving into something better and something more. This transitional time and space we can refer to as Liminal Space and it is kind, just like reality is always kind. This liminal space is the time you spend in a transition as you head towards your next destination and level of understanding. So don’t be afraid of the many transitions we will go through in our lives. Impermanence means that we are always guaranteed of new adventures, understanding and developments as life lovingly unfolds into more and more conscious states for each of us. Learn to make a habit of embracing Impermanence and Liminal Spaces with love rather than fear. 

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience; we are spiritual beings having a human experience.” 

– Pierre Teilhard de Chardin

Each of these 21 Ways to Transform your life cost us nothing and bring us closer, each and every day they are practiced, to becoming a more authentic, capable, response-able human being who is having a spiritual experience in this life, more so than a human one. Learning to trust the process of life is something we will have to open up to as adults.

We all suffer through dark nights of the soul, which can leave us disillusioned to the point where our lives become and illusion themselves. Authenticity is much like reality. Both are light and kind and show us the way to experiencing heaven in earth. Choosing our attitude is the only way that humans are different from all other creatures on earth. So as you learn to live a life that is grounded on a journey of upward spiralling transformation, or of you going above your form and becoming more and more spiritual in consciousness remember the words of Victor Frankl. “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”. Be the change and be you as you transform your life a little more everyday.Namaste and may God Bless you. 

Namaste and may God Bless you. 

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Here are 21 Ways to Transform your life that you won’t come back from. In other words, they are changes that will tend to stick in the long term. We all have anchors, some good and some bad, that we build upon our foundations of truth, of who we really are. Life Transformation tools you can use everyday to make massive changes in your life. 

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