Mental Health Retreats South Africa

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Some people go and relax at the spa, and hope it will heal their depression. It may ease the symptoms, but a holiday or getaway seldom does the job of real life transformation. People who suffer from depression, anxiety, addictions or burnout often need what Mental Health Retreats South Africa can offer. Counseling for individuals and in small groups allow for connection when hosted by an experienced therapist. Mindfulness classes, yoga and silent retreats coupled with good therapy can radically change your life in a short space of time. Today there is no stigma involved in going to sort your self out properly.

What to expect at Mental Health Retreats South Africa

Loads of fun. Lots of hard work on the self. Expect new, exciting and wonderful self discoveries in the first few days. You will quickly realize that there is no need to stay stuck! It’s a stupid…

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Personal healing and the bubble metaphor

When things get too much for us, we just stop dealing with it. When we overload on life’s challenges and traumas, even as children, we mentally quit playing the game at some point. Have you ever heard of defense mechanisms? They are tools of escape. They take over when we hit our emotional tipping points. When it’s just too much to take we start to deny, blame, shift guilt, look outside for any kind of solution. When life’s problems are just too much to bear, we climb into a bubble and distract ourselves from reality. No one is immune. To learn more about this subject of distraction from life through obsession, addiction, compulsion or mindlessness, we can use the bubble metaphor.


Imagine a little child dipping a plastic paddle into a solution and blowing bubbles.  The child keeps doing it over and over and eventually blows so long and hard that a giant bubble emerges and engulfs the child.  This is a powerful image for expressing what happens to us as a children through life’s traumas and something we work hard at resolving at our depression center.

Being hit with the obsession to act out is like being engulfed in the bubble.  We are powerless and carried away by the all-encompassing power of our compulsions, that have helped us distract ourselves from reality.  In the grip of our addiction, mind obsessions, depression and not managing our emotions we see the outside world through a transparent wall, but we can’t communicate with it realistically because the wall cuts us off.

The bubble was blown during those times when our minds were preoccupied with obsessive thoughts and fantasies and non-realities; it became full-blown when we progressed to acting out our pathological, addictive, obsessive or sexual rituals; and it burst only when the rituals ended in some kind of climax. Drink, sex, rock-n-roll. Anything that has little lasting substance or intrinsic value.

The exhibitionist who spent hours driving around in a car looking for victims is totally caught up in the bubble.  So is the eating disorder client who sits thinking about the next binge all morning. How to hide it. Planning the event that will remain a controlled personal secret. The alcoholic hiding her vodka bottles, taking secret sips, sneaking into bottle stores…planning the day around consumption. OH, what a clever escape from reality, even if it is only done half-consciously. The voyeur who waited outside a window hoping for a magical glimpse of a naked body, the addict who met someone and ended up quickly in bed with them, the addict who cruises the streets for hookers, or who hurried to an arcade to hide in a little booth and spend quarters to gaze at pornographic movies – all these people were slaves, and were helplessly in the grip of the bubble.

Personal healing and the bubble metaphor

Personal healing and the bubble metaphor is an appropriate, poetic image for many reasons.  It expresses the radical nature of the addict’s isolation.  Yes, you are addicted more to your thinking than any drinking! When we were in the bubble acting out, we existed in a secret world of our own creation where we sought thrills and pleasure.  Unfortunately this was also a world of shame and guilt, though these feelings did not hit us until the bubble burst and we re-entered the real world.  Addicted, lost and compulsive, we then prepared to create the bubble once again in order not to have to live with feelings of shame and this we were isolated prisoners within the downward mental cycle.

The bubble is also an appropriate image to express the sense of liberation we usually felt while acting out, as though we floated above all the burdensome responsibilities of normal life.  Life seemed as simple, symmetrical and unified as a bubble because all the great and overwhelming realities of life were reduced to a single purpose.  There was only one meaning in our lives during those hours spent in the bubble – all thoughts and feelings were expressed only in relation to that one purpose.  Life was immensely simplified in the bubble. But we didn’t know it wasn’t life at the time. It was distraction. Numbness. Non-movement and human stagnation at its finest. We were stuck, lost and going nowhere; the only things that were racing off were our thoughts. Repetitive, useless and hopeless as they were. Personal healing and the bubble metaphor teach us one thing is for sure in this world – only the truth (reality) shall set us free indeed!

Life was also ‘safe’ in the bubble, as though it were a womb.  Ironically, the wall of the bubble surrounding us actually seemed protective even when it carried us into great danger, because we believed that as long as we stayed in our own isolated world nothing could really touch us.  This is not to say that in the bubble we never experienced fear, on the contrary, fear of police, fear of discovery by a spouse, fear of disease – all these fears were felt in the bubble.

The addict, however, found a way to turn these fears into sources of stimulation that became part of the very ‘fix’ that was sought.  In the meantime, the real fears of life which we did not face – losing a job, financial insecurities, death of a loved one, rejection by someone significant in our life – seemed far, far away, outside the bubble’s wall.  That is why, in an ironic way, we felt ‘safe’ in the bubble, and further illustrates how the complexities of life became reduced in the bubble to single-minded simplicity.  We never had to deal with the real, complex fears of life; instead, all the feelings were expressed only in relation to our obsessive thinking.  This simplicity and safety enabled us to feel in control when we were in the bubble; “I know how to hide from the police and therefore my fear only pumps up my adrenaline, making me feel all the more in control and powerful.”  To deal with life’s problems we often resorted to acting out in order to feel that reassuring simplicity, safety and control that being in the bubble supplied.

The personal healing and the bubble metaphor is also an appropriate image for acting out because it expresses the irony that in this ‘liberation’ from the realities of life, we were actually trapped.  We may have felt as if we were flying to Mars, but actually we were trapped, engulfed in a bubble that felt like total freedom to go anywhere and do anything.  The problem, however, is that the simplistic single-minded obsessiveness which the bubble represents became more and more a restrictive space.  Finally we discovered that we no longer used the bubble – the bubble used us.  Work on personal healing and the bubble metaphor showed us that our freedom had become utter depressive slavery.

Being compelled to enter the bubble is an expression of our powerlessness.  When it bursts, as it inevitably did, we felt the unmanageability as we crashed to the ground.  The unmanageability was profound because our escapes into the bubble had prevented us from facing reality and learning the lessons necessary to effectively cope with life.

For more help with personal healing and the bubble metaphor, or information about our depression center programs to help you with an addiction treatment program, depression or anxiety issues contact us on 0824424779 or email


Visual Guided Meditation

A  brand new visual guided meditation made just for you. Ever done one? This visual guided meditation will gently ease you into a state of blissfully deep relaxation. Sound or no sound – it’s your call.

Never has it been more important to take time out to pause, breathe and listen to the silence so to speak. There has never been so much hustle and bustle in our lives, as we experience the worlds most technologically advanced, and noisy, generation yet. You can feel instant benefits of the Visual Guided Meditation. It is almost quite uncanny how profoundly we can change our physical, psychological and emotional states in such a short space of time. We don’t even have to believe it will happen. It just kinda happens, and it is awesome! Give this visual meditation a go and see for yourself. All you have to do is find a quiet space where you won’t be interrupted. Sit on a meditation mat or a comfy chair, or on the sand or grass for that matter. Then give yourself the gift of 10 minutes of meditative connection. Simply close your eyes for a few seconds before beginning, and take a few deep, cleansing breaths. Then begin breathing normally, paying attention to each inhalation and exhalation. Take the passenger seat and follow the visual meditation prompts and let go.

Stillness speaks volumes. Especially to the soul. It calms the nerves and can have an impact on healing our body, and redirecting synaptic electricity in your brain. So let’s not take it too lightly. Visual Guided Meditation will give you a small time out, to switch sides of your brain from back to front and from right to left. Visualization, in itself, is a healthy way of bringing positive energy into your mind, body and spirit, expanding your capacity for creativity.

Both Meditation and visualization are empowering tools to enhance consciousness and self-awareness and to focus the mind. Visual Guided Meditation and mindfulness allow your deeper, inner feelings to bubble gently to the surface. The experience can be absolutely wonderful.

Let’s be honest, we all visualize on a daily basis. We visualize what route we’ll take to go to work in the morning, and what meal we’ll eat that night. We try and visualize our days and anything that is a big deal in our lives, such as an upcoming talking engagement or similar will have us repeatedly visualizing the possible outcomes.

Visual guided meditation is used in many spiritual traditions, including yoga, Taoism, Christianity, and Tibetan Buddhism. As a ‘Universal Christian’ myself I love all the traditions and am open to all their beautiful teachings. After all, the more I have walked a spiritual path, the more I realize it is just the language and wording that differs. It is not the truth. The truth never changes. That is how we know it is true!

You can do an internal Visual Guided Meditation or you can do a gazing visual meditation. This would be the latter. You use your senses to see and hear…to really listen, focus and concentrate on what the author of the visual meditation is trying to get across to you. That is how you can benefit most deeply from the experience. Try not to get lost in terminology. Many people argue that meditation is a silent, inner experience that only works in one way. I say be create with Visual Guided Meditation. Do walking meditations and whatever other ones you can find. Connecting through silence is an oddly satisfying experience that more and more people are coming to understand. Being able to go on a personal silent retreat, at least once a day and using earphones and a guided meditation can feel like winning a million bucks over time! Millions of people today, including teenagers and the youth, even do these meditations with ASMR, without even thinking of it as a meditation! What is most important is the befit of connection. Slowing to the pace of nature, like a flowing stream, can work wonders in only a couple of minutes. Give yourself the gift of meditation for at least 20 minutes a day. Let us know how it goes.

For more info on Visual Guided Meditation, Healing Retreats, Addiction, depression or mental health assistance, please do get in touch.

Namaste and meditative blessings to you.

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Mother Teresa’s Healing Affirmations

A tribute to a master teacher of our time. Mother Teresa, helped people from all backgrounds without question. We can learn a lot from her beautiful, challenging and yet comforting words of wisdom hashtag#spiritualawakening hashtag#saints hashtag#teaching hashtag#healing hashtag#affirmations hashtag#mentalhealth

Healing words of wisdom to motivate and inspire you to keep growing and changing. Mother Teresa’s words are known around the world to be full of healing power and spiritual insight. Listen to her words and be inspired to go through life’s suffering and hard times with hope, faith and humility, knowing that everything you go through has a purpose.

Her incredibly beautiful poems are prayers for healing that anyone can use, whether Christian or from any other religion. Muslim, Buddhist, Jewish or non-believers and skeptics. All will benefit from her teachings and healing words.

Mother Teresa believed in unity and helped men, woman and children from all religious and non-religious backgrounds. It did not matter to her. Separation through religion or any other means does not work! We are all one. End of story. Catholic, was her background and Catholic means universal. You may have to read that again! As Christianity becomes universal once more, as we see the error of our ways, of trying to be special and different, we can start seeing people come together – no matter who they are.

Get quiet and close the door as you open your heart. Find some personal space to sit and reflect as often as you can. We recommend meditation and mindfulness for at least 20 minutes a day. Your body is your first mind. So, when you remove senses that have been overburdened throughout the day and focus your attention on the present, wonderful things start to happen both physically and emotionally. The practice is like a meditation and gets better over time.  Listen to her poems a couple of times.


It has never been more important to start practising mindfulness techniques as often as you can. To meditate means to sit. When we finally do sit, and stop the hustle and bustle of life, we can really start to connect to ourselves in a deeper way, which can be a magical experience. Once you master the art of slowing down your stream of automatic thinking, and focus, become still and present, doors begin to open to rooms you may never knew existed. We find answers to life’s deepest problems in the stillness, not in the chaos. Subscribe to our channels and keep practising mindfulness and connection through the wisdom offered by great, timeless and spiritual teachers like Mother Teresa.

Mother Teresa's Healing Affirmations

How to stop suffering your addictions

How to stop suffering your addictions takes a profound look at what we need to do to start healing ourselves at the deepest possible level. When we stop thinking of our past traumas in life as unfair deal, and addictions as a death sentence, we can learn how to transcend our own suffering and turn it into something remarkable and worthwhile #addiction #recovery #addictiontreatment #sobriety

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both…
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back….
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference.

We have all suffered. All human beings are subject to trauma and emotional suffering. Even if we receive this suffering from our own parents. But we can be guaranteed of suffering in life, either way we look at it.

Having treated addictions for so many years, one thing you get to know is that suffering seems contagious. It seems to have a life of it’s own. Suffering seems to find more suffering. If we experience death in the family as a child, we can grow up far more prone to depression and addiction than other people. Life has already had its way with us. But at some stage all the suffering in the world cannot defeat the human spirit. At some stage, people get there act together. Their resilience always amazes me. They get their acts together. They heal and grow into stronger, more stable beings than they were beforehand.

Then something magical happens. It is people who have suffered themselves and then healed themselves that treat other people with huge dollops of kindness. They somehow, without really even knowing it perhaps, ease other peoples suffering. They are gentle and kind. They show love and care for others and know first hand, how hectic and harsh the universe can be. So they have learned to tread lightly and be softer, through the hard times.

Most older people have a softness to them. That’s often why the children in the family are drawn to the older folks, the grannies and grandpas, with whom they choose to spend most of their time.

Suffering and love are great teachers. Suffering gets us out of addictions far more often tan love does. We seem to ignore love. We turn our backs on it. But suffering has a way of being relentless with us. It can shift us out of comfort, fear and stuckness in a split second. It can flip our lives on its head in a moment. So if you have endured great suffering I ask you today, to start to get it together. Start making progress by working on yourself. Set goals. Envision dreams. Be a light-worker in a world that is suffering just like you have. It needs you, as much as you need it. Connection is the cure for addictions. No, I do not use the word cure lightly. All things are possible and nothing lasts forever – not even your suffering! God bless you and Namaste. Mark L Lockwood, Recovery Magic.

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