Your Essential Life Path

Your Essential Life Path

I am telling you now that healing is the essential path today. We all treat it like it is an option but it is not an option to overcome 20 years of depression and lose those decades in sickness and stuckness. Your Essential Life Path, and I don’t use those words lightly, is to grow and contribute to self and then others or the buck stops here. It is not an option any longer to not try and beat your addictions and alcoholism and suffering and anxious thinking. It is not an option to live half a life in the twenty first century and this is why we call this journey of healing the essential path as of this moment. It is a path of transformation. You need to go through it and walk along it. We need to take an essential journey and cross over from our past trauma into healing and transformation. because that is the way everything else in the universe works. It is not just the way you work but the way everyone works.

Today with all the information that we have available to us we have people just believing that they need to just cope with pain and problems. No, you don’t cope with stuckness of any kind, whether it be depression and trauma for example, when the world needs change as much as you do. Rather you must try and over come it. Transcend it. You learn and grow from it eventually anyway. The Sufis used to say that nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come. The time, when you live only 80 or 90 years, is always right now. We must be cognisant of that. Your Essential Life Path is waking up to that.


‘How do I do it’ people often say to me. ‘How do I heal my life?’ Here is the how and it is green lights all the way for you. All paths lead to God! Study the 4 agreements books, the 12 steps of emotions anonymous or the bible the Bhagavad-Gita. You can try mindfulness, yoga, contemplation or meditation and whatever else it is you can fathom. You can heal through almost any system based in loving kindness. 

Your Essential Life Path

Understand this. You don’t conform you transform. The Bible says do not conform to the pattern of this world. It says don’t copy the behaviour and customs of this world but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think and then you will learn to know Gods will for you. This will is good pleasing and purpose full which is the perfect direction for you to go in. Healing is essential to everything that lives and breathes including you. Stop and contemplate that once more if you need to. If we do not heal and carry on as we do the world will die in the next few hundred years. You are the one, along with the rest of us, that must heal yourself so that you can help heal the world in turn. Just like nature is doing it all around us all day long. You see, it is healed people that heal people! Many of us sit with depression, fear and tension like it’s a choice. The only decision to be made is the one to heal as best as you can, as soon as you can. This is our purpose. It is our career objective as much as it is our life’s objective and we are all called to journey along this essential path. 

Don’t copy the behaviour and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect. Romans 12:2 New Living Translation

The renewal of your mind works from back to front and from downstairs to upstairs and from left to right. It is almost too simple to teach. It is exactly what the pills, chemicals and medicines are doing as they try and help by moving everything you think neurologically, from the back of your head to the front. It travels forward just like life travels. It travels to your pre-frontal cortex trying to get change to happen, but not only do we not change but we are also resistant to it. We don’t like change. Change and uncertainty are very scary notions, but at some point it is both necessary and worth it. It needs to be done and we need to grow. How do we know this because everything else is growing. The Earth, the universe, children, trees and everything else is growing. But are you growing? That is how you overcome suffering which is necessary to get you from A to B. 

Your Essential Life Path
Your divine purpose is to wake up and then change the world from the inside out

So what we need to do is understand that to make positive change happen for us and attract what we want, we must consider what we are believing and where our memories are taking us and how much of those memories, that are 10 and 20 years old, are somehow still guiding your life today. Either memories are guiding our lives if we are depressed, stuck and are feeling victimised by life. On the other hand we can get attacked by our wild imaginations and become too scared to leave home or even cross the street. We all don’t want to be hurt again. That however is absolutist and we need to just do life anyway. That is our true, spiritual nature. We cannot have happiness without some hurt getting us there as well. We cannot have good without bad because when we numb the bad feelings we numb the good ones too! We cannot move forward unless we realise that we are stuck in the first place. When you realise on our Your Essential Life Path that we are stuck in the story of our past and a made up future, we can stop being depressed and afraid. It is false evidence appearing real to the mind. That is all! 

We need to learn transformation not coping. The world is just like you, it is impermanent and will not stay the same, and neither will you. So don’t stay stuck! You can heal your life no matter what you have been told or what story you believe. It is a neurological dialogue and a construct created by your mind. Your growth and healing is an essential part of the future life of the world and we need to get our world right in the next 50 to 100 years or what do you think is going to happen? If we don’t start believing a new story what is going to happen? We often tend to forget that 200 people, at least, die from starvation every single day. We hide this and other bad things from ourselves and bury our heads in the sand trying not to change what needs to change. So when you heal and transform yourself you will transform the world. We need to re-think what is possible. This is Your Essential Life Path and everyone else’s.

“Until we learn to love others as ourselves, it’s difficult to blame broken people who desperately try to affirm themselves when no one else will.”
― Richard Rohr

As fragile as we are we are also incredibly courageous as a species. Look at how much we go through in our lives. But we always heal and overcome and transform. This is part of the deal. It is time to open up show up and grow up and change ourselves and then the world in that order. Because here it comes, “when you change the way you look at things the things you look at change,” including the reflection in the mirror. 

Let’s change your perceptions right now to be more accurate with the bigger picture of objective reality. Is the world a good or bad place? I know that you will be tempted to answer from your imagination or your memory. What did you read in the newspaper or see in the news today? Do you believe it? Are you likely to believe a lie while your soul sleeps in beams of light? We need to look at things past just the physiological and intellectual. We need to re-look at whether the world is in a good or bad place to become more grateful than judgmental. We need to use Contemplative Intelligence rather than denial and projection which are the very reasons for every wall that we put up, along with every conflict in the world. Our dichotomous thinking needs to go. To the mind, it is always someone else who is bad. You might be lying on the couch depressed, alone and afraid, thinking the world is a terrible place. But you need to rethink that you may just be wrong if you take a look outside. The world is like an amusement park and if we dive into the oceans it is like a giant, and blissful aquarium. The colour alone is enough evidence to show you that the world is a beautiful place. Look at what you see for yourself, without your story. This is where the act of contemplation and the practice of it starts to really come in and you can rethink, and take another look at what really, really is. Much like the story of Neo in the Matrix. So, if you think it’s bad have another look. God said he made the world and it was good. Has the world really changed. In the grand scheme it is definitely a no. It still operates like it did bazillions of years ago. 

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.

Victor Frankl

Transcending Our suffering is necessary

If you are suffering today you may be suffering your beliefs or your imagination, so drop it. Drop the story because who are you really without your story? Can you drop your personality? Yes of course. I’ve seen it done 1 million times in our healing center with people from all over the world with all sorts of problems. A course in miracles is spot on when it states, “You have no problems, but you think you have.” Your persona is a mask and everything that is not real has to go! The truth, the real, will set you free. If we start making the world black with carbon it will soon make us suffer and stop working and it will have to go. Selfishness, gluttony, jealousy and coping all has to go, so that we can focus on helping those 200 people live, and then helping the planet breathe again, sans carbon. Who will help them otherwise? Amazon or Apple? No. It is easy to believe that hunger and starvation and poverty or other peoples business. Instead it is your duty and my duty to grow and contribute and that is a fact that is written everywhere, over all the ages, in all the philosophies of the world. 

Your Essential Life Path

What is the key to life? Growth and contribution is the answer. All we do is take, take, take but then ask yourself if the world is just ‘take, take…taking like you take. No. The world is giving every single day. All it is doing is pouring out love, food, shelter, warmth and everything else that is good in this world. It’s real because it’s never changed in 14.7 billion years. So all we need to do is copy what the world is doing and give like it gives. 

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Published by Mark L Lockwood

Mark L Lockwood (BA)(Hons)(psy) teaches spiritual transformation and is the founder of Contemplative Intelligence. Author of The Power of Contemplative Intelligence, Autotherapy and Recovery Magic. Our work is about the science of finding your spiritual self.

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