How to change yourself for the better

Rewire Your Reality Retreat

Today let’s learn more about the scientific and measurable work of how change happens. Knowing How to change yourself for the better is a lost art in todays world. An art that we call re-cognition, or contemplative intelligence.

At our Center we understand that your thinking can change your life. It has healed many at our center from all over the world, with all sorts of presenting problems. What was unique was how they actually changed their state of thinking and being.  It is our ability to self-reflect. All Contemplative Intelligence (CQ) really is at the core, is thinking about thinking. It’s about becoming a witness and a knower to yourself. To be able to contemplate your thoughts was taught by the mystics, monks and even roman emperors and it is as powerful then as it is today. How to change yourself for the better is a question that has alluded more people than ever today. Our mental health crisis has more confused, irrational and lost people in its clutches than ever before. More knowledge has given us less Intelligence and thus we are in crisis.

Eckhart Tolle explains it this way: “Presence is the arising of a dimension of consciousness from where you can become aware that there is a voice in the head. “That awareness is beyond thinking. It’s a space of consciousness where you can be the observer of your own mind—the awareness behind the thought processes.


Short practices everyday, even a minute or two at a time, can begin to pull you out of autopilot. When you are truly present, you get rid of the pain body and lead a life of joy, rather than suffering. You become more loving, more compassionate, and more understanding about the connection between you and All That Is. We suggest that you achieve 100 MindYoga points a day. This is a data specific way to gauge your progress. It helps you understand that you don’t just have bad luck and become depressed and stressed. When you are responding to life in a stressful way for extended periods of time there is a consequence. To heal and change means to break these cycles. One of the most powerful tools we use are CQM’s Contemplative Intelligence Meditations. By using a scientific method of changing your bodies state of being we can in turn change the very shape of the brainwaves in your neural nets. The moment we begin to modify our behavior and we have a new experience, now we are instructing the body emotionally to teach it what it has intellectually understood. Now we have two brains working together We have mind and body in unison and that’s power. Every time we learn something new it is forwarding a new connection in your brain, we could say that remembering then is maintaining and sustaining those connections. So through the process of repetition, you’re actually reinforcing the circuits so that now those circuits are in place longer than a few moments.

So now, all this information is stored in your thinking brain. New connection = change. Change is difficult and takes time. How you can expedite the plasticity of the mind is through practice. Practice changes everything. Every single time you become stressed and negative you re-enter what we call the valley of thinking addiction. You have a limbic system hijack. You go into old, entrenched ways of thinking and ultimately suffering. Never underestimate the power of Mindfulness because once you are operating from a CQ mind you are no longer in that valley. You shift into the parts of the prefrontal cortex brain where creativity and possibility reside. We call this the contemplative field, which is a place where you are above your memory, your story, your habits and mental and emotional addictions. 

If you want to know how to change yourself for the better then you must understand that the way you wire and fire needs to change. As human beings we only work one way. That is life’s way. Life requires certain things from you and life will win and get what it wants from you (but only every time). Today we can connect to Life willingly instead of being pushed into a life that really, really matters and makes an impact. Look into the mysterious aspects of yourself. Become curious of yourself and Life….your mind may be running on autopilot, it may be addicted to it….and life doesn’t tolerate zombies well. It requires presence, connection, empathy, and gratitude and a few other things we will learn later. We are moving from animal self to higher self and that is your purpose now, today. Namaste 🙏🏻

Contemplative Intelligence Meditations (CQM)

Published by Mark L Lockwood

Mark L Lockwood (BA)(Hons)(psy) teaches spiritual transformation and is the founder of Contemplative Intelligence. Author of The Power of Contemplative Intelligence, Autotherapy and Recovery Magic. Our work is about the science of finding your spiritual self.

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