If you are ready to go on a transformative journey what about writing a letter to my personality. I’ll personalities are made up of every thought feeling action behaviour and response that we have ever had. Our personalities eventually create our personal realities and at some point these masks that we have worn since childhood to defend us need to go. The journey to discovering the offset authentic self is a journey beyond the masks of the personality you have created. You are far more than your animalistic tendencies bases in a survival minded outlook. When you discover what we call you Sacred Self, you will discover who you really are, unlimited and boundless, free and unmasked.

The work of writing to our Dearest Frightened Personality, was inspired by Elizabeth Gilbert and depicts a journey of personal transformation, personifying anxiety as “Frightened Personality” and portraying self-growth as an ascent in a skyscraper. The narrative illustrates the dynamic between fear and inner wisdom, emphasizing the importance of self-control, mindfulness, and self-compassion in overcoming obstacles to achieve self-realization and fulfillment. Use it as an affirmation or mantra for your journey from personality to spiritual reality.

Dearest Frightened Personality,

My Sacred Self and I are about to embark on a journey of healing and life transformation together, straight up a tall, 100-story skyscraper from the basement to the penthouse; from fear to Love. I understand you’ll be joining us, as you always do. I acknowledge that you believe you have an important job to do in my life, and that you take your job seriously.

Apparently, your job is to induce complete panic whenever I’m about to do anything interesting, and may I say, you are superb at your job! So, by all means, keep doing your job if you feel you must.  

But I will also be doing my job on this ascent of conscious awakening, which is to work hard, trust, risk and stay focused. And Sacred Self will be doing its job, which is to remain stimulating and inspiring. There’s plenty of room in this elevator for all of us, so make yourself at home.  

But understand this: Sacred Self and I are the only ones who will be making any decisions along the way. You’re allowed to have a presence, and you’re allowed to have a voice, but you are not allowed to have a vote. You’re not allowed to touch the buttons, you’re not allowed to suggest exploring other floors, no detour suggestions and you’re not even allowed to fiddle with the air-conditioning. Dearest Frightened Personality, you are not even allowed to look in my backpack of tool-kits I am collecting for myself on the way.  

But above all else, my dear old familiar friend, you are absolutely forbidden to operate the elevator!

A Letter to my Personality

A Letter to my Personality beautifully personifies our fear as a separate entity (“Frightened Personality”). This personification is a powerful tool in cognitive behavioral therapy, and life in general, allowing one to externalize and objectify your anxiety. Anxiety natural to the survival of the freightened persona or ‘masks’ we wear.

• The Skyscraper as a Symbol of Growth: The 100-story skyscraper represents the journey of personal growth and transformation. Each floor signifies a stage of development, with the basement representing your current state and the penthouse symbolizing the pinnacle of self-realization (Love). Check out the blog for more on the skyscraper of consciousness and how to measure your energy, personality and your current weigh-point along the journey of transformation.
• The Elevator as the Mind: The elevator is a metaphor for your mind, the vehicle that takes you through this journey of consciousness and awakening that starts in the basement of the mind and ends up in the Penthouse of our being where we have an unlimited view of life. We go from contracted to expanded to pure consciousness.
• Frightened Personality as the Backseat Driver: Your “Frightened Personality” is like a backseat driver, constantly voicing doubts, fears, and negativity. It tries to steer you away from the path, causing panic and self-sabotage.
• Sacred Self as the Guiding Light: Your “Sacred Self” represents your inner wisdom, intuition, and the part of you that desires growth and fulfillment. It is the source of inspiration and motivation.

The Power of the Skyscraper Metaphor

By framing your inner experience in this metaphorical way, you are creating a narrative that empowers you. You are the captain of your ship, and you are in control of your journey. You are no longer a victim of your anxiety; you are a participant in your own transformation.

The “skyscraper metaphor of personality” uses a skyscraper’s structure to represent the different layers and aspects of a person’s personality. The foundation represents core values and beliefs, while the different floors could symbolize emotions, habits, and learned behaviors. Higher levels might represent aspirations, goals, and the individual’s overall sense of self. 

Here’s a more detailed breakdown: 

• Foundation:The deepest level represents the bedrock of your personality – your core values, beliefs, and fundamental principles. This is the most stable and enduring part of the skyscraper, influencing all other levels.
• Floors:Each floor represents a specific aspect of your personality, such as:
  • Emotions: How you experience and express feelings.
  • Habits: The routines and behaviors you engage in regularly.
  • Learned Behaviors: The skills and knowledge you’ve acquired through experience.
• Higher Levels:As you climb higher, the structure might represent:
  • Aspirations: Your goals and ambitions in life.
  • Goals: The specific targets you’re working towards.
  • Sense of Self: Your overall understanding and perception of who you are.

By visualizing your personality as a skyscraper, you can gain a clearer understanding of your different layers and how they interact. This can be a helpful tool for personal growth and self-discovery. For example, you might realize that certain negative behaviors (a particular floor) are rooted in core beliefs (the foundation). This metaphor can also help you identify areas where you want to build stronger foundations, or build higher levels (achieve your aspirations). 

In Summary of A Letter to my Personality

Mark’s letter that he uses to help people balance themselves at the beginning of a journey as an affirmation letter, a mission statement and declaration to self, is a powerful tool for self-reflection and growth. It demonstrates a deep understanding of your inner world and a commitment to overcoming your fears. By continuing to practice mindfulness, challenge negative thoughts, and cultivate self-compassion, you can navigate your journey of healing and transformation with courage and confidence. We hope you enjoyed A Letter to my Personality and work the skyscraper model of understanding your personality for yourself.