Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome

Recovering from Peter Pan Syndrome

The Peter Pan syndrome describes people who don’t grow up. Petra Pam for the ladies. When they are adults they are still acting like children. This is particularly common in men these days. Thus, the phrase Maleolecent, as in a make adolescent, has been coined to describe these adult children. Peter Pan syndrome is aided and abetted by parents who enable their children, by doing for them, what they can do for themselves. They stunt their emotional growth, albeit with the best of intentions. This stunting is becoming an epidemic that is leaving 30 and 40 year olds without careers, without partners and without a clue.

The movie Failure To Launch with Mathew McConaughey first highlighted the issue of adult children living at home, not being capable, or not wanting to move out. It is a state where they still hold emotional ties to being at home. Failure to launch is viewed as a problem with parenting. Over-controlling parents who shelter their children far too much may have kids who want to stay in a child-hood state of immaturity. Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome requires one to not only grow up, but to take responsibility for themselves and others they care for. It requires getting your head out of Neverland and into the real world that requires contribution, effort and maturity.

Peter Pan syndrome is a pop psychology term referring to someone, usually a man, who does not want to enter adult life. Although it can affect both sexes, it appears more often among men. We don’t want to be gender bias. We do see almost an equal gender split of Peter Pan syndrome sufferers in our wellness and drug rehabilitation center these days.

They are those adult folks, who have the body of an adult but the mind of a child. Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome is not always easy. It requires awareness of the issue first and foremost.

The syndrome means he or she does not want to work, take any responsibilities, and wants everyone around them to support his lifestyle. They don’t want to stop being children and start being mothers or fathers. Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome requires acceptance of the symptomology at some point, so that new action can be taken.

Grown men playing games, video games, and being the fun and life of the party can be very endearing at first, even lovable. But many woman and partners tend to leave these kinds of partners as the consequences of the child-like behaviours start to surface. When the fun and games wear thin through the course of life’s real demands and issues, people tend to move on in search of a more grounded and mature partner.

10 Signs that the Peter Pan Syndrome is alive and Kicking in someone and how to go about recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome:

  • They don’t like to continue conversations about adult topics.
  • They live in a dream world with loads of ideas and little or no action ever evolving.
  • They act like the jester or the clown at social events, trying to dodge any adult talk about feelings, growth and their own evolution.
  • They still rely on others, especially parents, to help them make all their decisions.
  • He or she acts like a narcissist, and is self centered.
  • He loves hanging around with the lost boys a little too much.
  • He likes Tinkerbell’s fairy dust and is addicted to substances.
  • They make light of everything to the point of annoyance and never deliver.
  • They are unemployed and can’t hold down a steady job and blame it on bad breaks.
  • Fear of commitment. Staying undecided and always in limbo is a sure sign of a Pan

Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome

Of course having all these signs of Peter Pan syndrome may not point to a pan, an adult-child or a maleolecent all the time. Cultures and societies offer of course. They do however offer us a guide as to what to avoid when it comes to enabling a pan. Adults need to grow emotionally and psychologically themselves. They must make their own decisions and then reap the rewards or consequences of those decisions. That’s how we evolve and grow.

The stereotypical sufferer from Peter Pan Syndrome is someone, usually a man, who does not want to enter the adult life. They may not work, take any responsibilities, and want everyone around them to support their lifestyle.

As this syndrome is not official, it’s hard to tell who suffers from it. Just because someone has childlike tendencies, such as curiosity, a sense of humor, or love for certain things associated with a child, it doesn’t mean they have Peter Pan Syndrome.

For more information about Recovering from the Peter Pan Syndrome get in touch with us on +27824424779. Start a recovery course from addiction, depression or anxiety today. Don’t stay stuck. If you’re wanting to chill out and not grow, odds are Captain Hook is coming for you!


Published by Mark L Lockwood

Mark L Lockwood (BA)(Hons)(psy) teaches spiritual transformation and is the founder of Contemplative Intelligence. Author of The Power of Contemplative Intelligence, Autotherapy and Recovery Magic. Our work is about the science of finding your spiritual self.

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